Domme Drop

I don't really drop from online interactions; when I have a weekend with My slave I definitely need a full day to relax, process, reflect...Sometimes it sucks to get back to reality after having been put up high on that pedestal--other times, it's fine. If I'm a little down I try to refocus on being mindful rather than emotional, and will write (when I can).  I like getting down to the bottom of why I have the different reactions I have--reactions are good, you know you're getting something done.

Thank you for the share

Dommes have drops just like subs do. Mine usually depend on just how hard I have worked. I even have a drop kit where I have items such as a warm furry blanket and my favorite book. 

Yes, it happens to me sometimes but only when it’s subs I expected more from.. it’s very common to have subs make a million promises of complete servitude then freak out and run off.. usually it’s my chastity subs that do that though lol (it’s intense and makes them much more submissive than they expected and it can be a little frightening at first that’s why trust is so important.. I don’t let it bother me too much cause they usually always come running bs k within two weeks lol 

I definitely feel drop after an intense scene. 

I have never had Domme drop, nor do my subs have sub drop. That is because my in-person scenes look like a bell curve. I start slow and build up to a peak before slowly winding down again at the end. This helps ensure that my subs are basically at baseline when I end a scene. It takes some planning to do because I want the most intense parts of a scene to happen toward the middle, with the milder and less stimulating stuff toward the beginning and end. It is worth the work though.

I deal with online stuff the same way so it tends to work similarly there.  

Thanks for sharing/highlighting the post, sorrysub. It's always refreshing to see Dom/Dommes post about their vulnerability. I've never known how to not throw myself completely into a D/S relationship, it's all or nothing for me and I can't help myself despite knowing full well that it comes at a very high cost. It can happen both ways, feeling like I've let my sub down, or being let down by my sub, both hurts equally as much and it's one of the reasons I called it quits a few years ago. I'm now a bit older (shhh, still forever 21), wiser, and hopefully more resilient, but never immune to it. If anyone ever wants to talk about this please feel free to DM me. 

This is a great article. 

Some subs feel "you have my money and my devotion that should be sufficient." 

With an online D/s relationship the aspect of aftercare is very much an afterthought sometimes. Subs don't always understand that it's a two way street and Dom's may need aftercare too. 

Sure we have your monies, but we're human too.