I hope I am not "over thinking" my training under Mistress Pauley, aka Ms Pauley Belle. But I do like to talk about it as I see it happening. I would never speculate what is on Mistress Pauley's mind. My job is to respond to signals she sends me and only she can judge if I am doing the right thing. I was going to say that each time I send tributes or gifts, my training proceeds. But that is not exactly it. Rather, it seems that as I continue to spend, my enslavement to Mistress Pauley builds ...

I write this blog because I am curious about something Part of the enjoyment about findom for me is that I rarely have to spend my own money,but it got me thinking does the amount count or that there are subs who pick up the bill for it? For example if you buy a new top for £10 (or whatever  currency you use) and your sub sends for it some people may wonder what the point is as it is a small amount where as some may think the amount does not matter because it is exciting to know that a sub...

Owned by: Goddess CopperLotus Having read my friend Humbled’s blog “Jealousy, tributing and my submissive mindset” (which is very good) and with the prodding of Goddess, here are some thoughts I would like to share on tributing and giving up control. ...

Writing a profile:- Try and include as much as you can,a list of kinks/fetishes you enjoy, limits, what you are truly looking for,maybe include any experience you have. Just be honest and write honestly, don't include things you think someone wants to hear/read. I also find it helpful if a sub has written a full profile because personally any sub that contacts me I will look at their profile,posts and so on to see if we have anything in common and such.   ...

So, I've been thinking a lot recently about some areas of contention between Dommes. Those little disagreements about what's "proper," or what makes someone a "real Domme," or which way we "should" portray ourselves. My intention with this blog isn't to stir up controversy, but rather, to have a discussion about some of these things.   I'm sure we've all seen it. "A real Domme wouldn't do X. A Domme worth her salt wouldn't wear Y. Dommes have to do Z." ...

From My blog at Mistress Kiara's Dungeon Pick up the Slack! So as I’m sure you all know, things are still not great. Hell, things aren’t even “good” right now. The USA is going into a second COVID spike, this one even higher than the initial one. That means MANY have been furloughed, laid off, or just flat out fired. I bet lots of folks didn’t even make rent this month! ...

I have written a blog previously about time wasting and to be honest this will cover that a little as well Any sub that is worth your time will show/prove that to you, they won't try and dangle a carrot in front of you or make empty promises I have heard it all myself, I don't get paid until Friday, I have been scammed before and all the other excuses you can think of, when I get messages like that I have to make a decision to engage or not, it is my choice to respond or ignore it ...

I have been thinking lately about the proper way to approach Mistress Pauley's Wish Lists. She has many Wish Lists grouped as she pleases. She sets Highest priority for those things she expects before others are purchased. She has one list she expects to be kept clean as she wants those items now. She also adds items she knows I see as fetish items; purses, anyone? After being her slave for 7 years, I feel I should approach her Wish Lists with the idea of maximizing her pleasure foremost in m...

I have had a blast over the past few months exploring new ways to put the fun back in findom. I had to just take a step back because there seems to be so many that believe a hard bitchy persona is the only way to be.  There is nothing wrong with this way. I am just different. I am me. So here are just a few examples and keep in mind you must stay safe. Some of these are not possible while corona is still raging on. Do your research and make sure YOU are safe before you do anything. Shoppin...

I talk to so many subs who are looking to serve, “in real life”. At this point in my domme experience, I am so over subs basically wanting a domme girlfriend. If you want that go to FetLife or some other dating site on the internet! There are plenty! I will not date you. Ever! Or they are long-distance and don't think they can “control themselves” if they don't live in the same city as their domme. That is a huge red flag for me. You are saying you want to serve and you are talking to a potentia...