Owning a SLAVE vs playing with a SUB

Just as a preface, I'd like to state that it is not my intention to sound rude, or disrespectful to ANYONE, Dommes and subs/slaves alike. This is a blog I've been reading to write for a while, I've just not had the time. Also as a disclaimer- this is MY view on the subject when it pertains to financial Domination, not in FemDom in general. Without further note, off we go.

So I've seen this is the community a TON. I see it everywhere, especially with newer Dommes, or subs that are trying out the scene (not even necessarily financial domination). The difference between submissive and slave is often misunderstood. All slaves are submissives, but not all submissives are slaves. So I suppose that is the purpose of this blog.

To better explain, I'm going to go through interactions with a submissive, a slave, and explain the differences.

First the submissive (I use the term submissive for the male participant) approaches the Domme, or the Domme approaches the submissive. You begin to interact. Perhaps the submissive has sent a GC or tribute. What happens next determines whether a submissive is a slave or not.

Upon speaking with a submissive, if he is interested in getting directly into fetishes, if he doesn't seem to have interest in ME as a person and is really only interested in my fetishes, he is not a slave. If he is openly speaking with many Dommes, he is not a slave. If he asks Me for something. he is not a slaves.

slaves are interested in pleasing a Domme. That is what they get enjoyment and arousal from. he may have specific fetishes he is looking for, but if someone messages you and asks you what your fetishes are, he hasn't done his research. that compulsiveness is what determines a submissive from a slave in financial Domination (for the most part). A slave is going to go out of their way to find every bit of information about you before approaching you. he will want to impress you. he will want to stand out from all the men that approach you. he will want to know everything he can about you and be confident in his love for you before he approaches you. he wants to make an impression. He knows he is not worth this beautiful and powerful Woman's time, but he's going to try to be better than all the rest.

submissives that are not slaves, are looking for a quick fix. submissives get horny, and they get urges to be dominated. It doesn't consume their life quite as much as someone who is a slave. If he only shows up once or twice a week- he's a submissive. If he comes aroun daily or just about daily- he's a slave, generally speaking.


Bottom line-slaves want to be a part of my LIFE, not just my day.

In financial Domination, a SLAVE is the one who is going to be of benefit to a Domme. he is the one who is going to live for Her. he is one one who will bend and mold into anything she wants him to be.

A submissive can still be useful. They definitely have their place in my life. They come around when they are in the mood. They get horny and pop up when they need you, otherwise they keep minimal contact with you. These are the guys you want to market your content to. These are the guys who are going to buy clips, call phone lines, subscribe to your onlyfans. These are the guys that come around a lot more often, but are much less devoted. They also want it NOW- not later.

However, if you are a new Domme, I would steer clear of most submissives. As a newer Domme, submissives can get you into some BAD habits. They can be quite dramatic. They are all-together not worth it. They are cool to play with when you have the time, or to keep your clips sales, and phone-lines up. Otherwise, they're quite useless in Financial Domination. You'll get payments. NOT tributes. In my experiance, most financial submissives are born to be slaves.

I'd really love to hear more Domme AND sub/slave views on this. It is always of interest.