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Queenfaev
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June 16, 2024
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I have writen before about the power of knowlege in this industry. I only included one book because at the time I didn't htat my list handy. That blog post is here.
This is also to educate as many in this industry with free information becuase I am sick of seeing Guru's who know nothing selling cheep lists. Hopefully this helps loads.
Femdom realted books list:
Dominatrix Bos by Asher Lake
How to set up an FLR: A couples guide to Female Led Relationships by Georgia Ivey Green
Enough to make you blush: Exploring erotic humiliation by Princess Kali
The Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei
The sexually Dominant Woman but Lady Green
Surrender, submit, ser her: The definitive guide to enacting Female Leadership and embracing the female Dominated by Key Barrett
The hesitant Mistress: a Guide to claiming your Feminine Power by Dvanna Hightower (hard to find a copy)
Female Domination by Elise Sutton Sexy Prostate: Male G-spot Massage for Pleasure and Health by Erika Thost
The Ultimate Guide to kink: BDSM, role play and the erotic edge by tristan taormino
How to be kinkier: more adventures in the adult playtime by Morpheous
SM101: a Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman The History & Ars of the dominatrix by Anne O Nomis
In 24 years in this industry I know my worth. I am 42 and living a life I had never dreamed of when I first started. The reason I am a financial dominant has nothing to do with "Oh I am pretty so pay me" (If that works for you awesome). For me I have spent time reading, learning, growning my wealth and making sure the people who chose to serve understand that small tributes are fine but do not get you and automatic ownership. It is simply a compiment and meant to be just that. The ones who truly serve understand that 250 euro will get my attention to a table to talk through needs vs wants and extactly what is expected.
All of my money I have made from this industry goes into an account that is invested in stock that I can live comfortablly off so that the power of that money is never relied on for a submissive to serve. I took that time very early on to make sure I was never in a position to rely on anyone for my income.
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May 24, 2024
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Most of the time I refuse to spend a lot of money on photo shoots and events. However I learned a valubale lesson after my trip to the Femdom Ball in London lat year. I want to make it clear that this is a step to take later on in your online career and I will explain why when I go into detail.
Let me put this in the best perspective:
£100 high tea
£130 Femdom Ball
£50 After Party
£635 Hotel for 4 days
£200 food
£100 taxi
£100 airfair and train
£200 Dresses
If I did the math right that is £1515, So it is an infestment in your future. It is a place to learn how to be in a high protocal setting and to learn mannors and Equette from some of the best in the industry. What I gained from last years experience was that I made around €5000, gained a lot of subscribers, and got to colab with some amazing ladies as well. Will I be going back this year. YES and my tickets have already been purchased. It is an event to explore. My advice if you are just starting is to find local events to attend. Be safe about it but explore.
My next peice of advice is to invest in a photo shoot. I did one recently with a local photographer call Swans Seduction and I couldn't be happier with the results. What did I invest in it:
€300 photo package
€100 For her to travel to me
€150 for on nice in the hotel room
€550 in total as I already had the outfits for the shoot. What I have gained from this alone €2000 in revenue from books on my website and more that an few followers on all of my sites. Find a local photographer and spend time with them before booking. Make sure you are comfortable and have fun. I don't use male photographers until they are in a public shoot.
If you are looking to server then by all means take a look at my link-in-bio. You will find not only my webite, links to my webstores (OF, LF, MV, and iwantclips) but you will also find my link to tipfunder which I will recieve 99% of your payment. They only take put a small amount to process.
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Slowly rebuilding my site and even blogging again there. You should take a look.
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If you are home gooning anyway…you might as well be tributing properly!
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Queenfaev
posted a comment on MissMorrigan's blog "Do Not Approach"
Not knowing my payment methods or trying to convince me that their method is better is the quickest way to make me go “not interested” and move onto better prepared people.
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posted a comment on her blog Payment Methods in the Findom world
Cuckolded for LifeWishtender can also be used in the same way AND in Australia as I have a sub that also uses it
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Queenfaev
posted a blog.
December 15, 2023
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I've been in this world since around May 2000. Back then most of the time the only way that this worked was off-line. Nowadays, there are so many different ways to do this and I'm doing this from Europe. So some of my pay methods will be a different way than America.
PayPal is one of the most popular but there are quite a few downsides for a dominant. One the fees are extremely high and it's easy for a submissive to charge back with this. And it's also easy for a dominant to scam somebody out of money with this one so this is not my first choice, but it is an option. I just suggest if you're doing this professionally that you don't use it. I also have a merchant account with this particular pay method which will share both my address and the physical address of the person sending and I know a lot of people don't know this so that you need to be aware of it.
Cash app is something I've heard quite often. I have never used this one due to the fact that in Europe, it's not an option. So I don't have much experience with this one.
Wishtender is the main one that I use for many reasons. One of those reasons is just simply that you can use cash app to pay for Wishtender . I also like this one just for the simple fact that it keeps my anonymity, and it also lets the submissive pay in his own currency and it's worldwide. I use this one because I enjoy the fact that it takes the fees out of the person paying and not the other way around and there's no way to charge back. So in the end, the dominant is actually very protected with this particular payment. Since Wishtender is completely shut down I thought I would share another that I use called tipfunder. Working almost the same as wishtender.
You also have pay methods such as only fans, loyal fans, and pretty much any adult site that she uses. These are the ones that actually take fees out of her payment but not the person paying. These methods also keep the anonymity of both parties and can be nice alternatives.
so make sure anytime that you use pay methods in this industry you research their terms of use and make sure that any submissive paying with that method knows it as well. Remember to keep yourself safe by paying attention to which pay method share your real name and information with who's paying.
Chekc out my links for other ways to pay or if you wish to contact me
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Thanks for this article. As a pay pig, I enjoy using Paypal as the extra fees that I am charged for using it just add to the whole findom experience! Plus, being in Australia it means I am very limited as to what means of payment I can use.
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Cuckolded for LifeWishtender can also be used in the same way AND in Australia as I have a sub that also uses it
Queenfaev
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Thanks so much for the votes! Keep voting as I would like to help.
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This is a poll mainly to find out if there are people who want to learn more about the fetish and it's origins before the internet took off. I have been in this fetish since 2000 and my great grandmother way before that. So I have a lot of knowledge I want to pass on.
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December 8, 2023
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Findom, short for financial domination, is a unique aspect of BDSM that involves a power exchange centered around financial control. In this blog post, we will delve into the dynamics of safe findom, examining the principles of consent, trust, and responsible execution. We will explore how findom can be an empowering experience for both dominants and submissives while highlighting the significance of maintaining boundaries and ensuring the well-being of all participants. Join us on this journey as we unravel the complexities of safe findom and its potential for personal growth and fulfillment.
Findom or Financial Domination is the activity of a submissive giving gifts, money and financial control to a Financial Dominant. The financial dominant traditionally does end up with a higher annual income than the submissive therefore making them dominant. She should know how to multiply her own income and not depend on submissives as this makes her position more in control.
A power exchange, a negotiated exchange of power between partners, is also closely related to Findom. A mistress for example will control the finances of a submissive. Down to what he spends and what bills he may pay. This type of extreme should only be handled by people who know how to manage money. A submissive can not serve long term if a Mistress takes all of his money and does not pay for his needs (clothing, food, shelter).
To establish safe findom practices it is important to communicate all bills, needs, and management of funds. Make sure you know what you want so spend on her and what you must save for your own monthly expenses. This isn't always necessary for the lighter versions of this fetish but for the extremes it is vital. Keep a line of open communication in order to keep the dynamic healthy and long-term.
Negotiating Financial Expectations are also very important. If you don't go into detail about this then a long dynamic will not happen. There must be a budget for what type of dynamic you want to go to. Some may only afford $100 a month...while others can easily spend around $2000+ for a high-quality service. And yes it is a service. This means you both have to match with fetishes. Keep in mind some do not offer this and that is also ok. Just know what you are both interested in.
Trust and Responsibility can not be stressed enough. With this fetish being flooded with more and more who do not understand that there are responsibilities involved. A sub has to make sure his bills are paid. While a dominant needs to pay attention to a subs health. Mental as well and physical and emotional in order to hold a longer hold. Realize that more dynamics are not long term. They want a quick tip or gift and move on to the next. Those are easy to id.
Building and Maintaining Trust revolves around open communication and ongoing negotiations. What is going on in both your lives? What bills have come up? Is there something like a vacation or project you want to be funded? Is there heating or gas cost gone up? These are things that you need to know. Trust takes time to build as well as understanding. Is the submissive working hard for your interests or are they just draining all your energy for their own needs.
There are responsibilities and duties of care that need to be outlined from the start. Some submissives enjoy a life of micro-management. This requires a lot of time from a Mistress to care for. Or is this a low-maintenance situation where a Mistress will demand an amount for a game or a twitter promotion? There are things to consider.
Self-Care and Emotional Well-being: Do you both have care kits there is a thing called sub and dom drops. Do you know what makes you feel good when you are low on energy? Use this in your kit. Do you both have limits? What are they and have they been defined?
Recognizing Emotional Boundaries: Again referring to boundaries. What are you willing to no and not willing to do? Why? Are there triggers that are too much for you? Be honest with this as these can really be a problem later on.
Aftercare and Support are not discussed often enough. These are things like regular breaks offline. For me I will take a walk around the pond I live close to when I have too much going on. I will read a book or grab a warm soft blanket and a mug of hot chocolate and write out how I am feeling in a journal. Sometimes I will light a scented candle and enjoy a nice bubble bath. These are the small things that can be done. A regular check-in with my sub is also a necessary involvement. I know how they are doing and how far they still want to take this and it means I have a steady income in which I invest in other things to make sure when I have low-income months from working I still have bills paid.
Evolution and Growth in an options as well. Think of it from the Mistress's perspective. If you encourage a hard-working sub to go to school or take courses that will in the end mean his income goes up that means there is more room for you as well. Also, are you looking into ways that you can invest that extra income for your own growth? Management of social media? Finance courses so you know where your tax dollars can be deduced? What about the deligation of editing videos or photos?
Safe findom is a dynamic and complex aspect of BDSM that requires a thorough understanding of consent, trust, and responsible practices. By establishing open communication, maintaining boundaries, and prioritizing emotional well-being, findom can become a powerful tool for personal growth, empowerment, and mutually fulfilling experiences. Remember, safety and consent should always be the guiding principles in any BDSM practice, including findom.
Note: I realized that I posted the outline and not the actual post which is why it has been edited. If you wish to follow me on other links you can find them on my website.
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