Ms Laura

What exactly does the phrase "to top from bottom" mean?  Mind you, we are discussing this in the BDSM context.  lol  (I have to clarify for some, believe it or not)  'Topping from bottom' is an expression used to describe a situation where a submissive attempts to control the play, the dynamic or the relationship from their submissive position using seduction, persuasion, provocation, puppy-dog-eyes, etc.  It means exactly what it says:  the submissive (or bottom) attempt to take over control fr...

Hot topic these days, especially with all of the influx of "insta-dommes" and the whole blackmail, ruination kick.  Let Me just make one thing perfectly clear: Ms Laura does NOT engage in blackmail.  Fantasy or role play is one thing, reality is an entirely different beast.  I have made some comments recently that seem to have been misinterpreted, so I would like to set the record straight on a few things.  The statement I made was this: "many MANY subs I have come across apparently suffer from ...

As we now enter the last month of 2017, I feel it is a good time to reflect on the past year and see where improvement can be made in all areas of our lives.  2017 has provided much growth for Ms Laura, as I am sure it has for you, as well.  There have been some very trying times, not the least of which was My daughter's surgery this past month...many, MANY weeks living in a tent while working medical at various festivals...the beginning of this journey with some of you...the ending of the journ...

From now until the new year, Ms Laura will be posting various tasks for the Holiday season. (This is a good way for those of you in the Holiday Holdem to pass the time and impress Ms Laura) You may do any of these without tribute, however, do not expect a response from Me or any attention to your results. Tributes can be made via CirclePay, Google Wallet or GreenDot moneypak to [email protected] Holiday Task 1 ...

I received the following report this morning after a submissive had completed My Bathroom Challenge.  Well done, sub-n! "Dear MsLaura, Here is my report on Your Bathroom Control Challenge: ...

I have created a page on My blog specifically listing various tasks open to all. MsLauraToYou: TASKS https://mslauratoyou.blogspot.com/p/t.html This page contains tasks that are open for anyone to do. You do NOT have to be in active service to Me, nor a tributing sub. I do, however, expect you to follow the instructions for each task and send feedback as directed. I offer up these tasks as a way for potential subs to see some of what I expect, as well as a way for Me to see how well you f...

Start by tying up your cock and balls. Put a butt plug in your ass. Now attach nipple clamps to your breasts. Wear a white t-shirt that clings to your body (It doesn't have to be super clingy). Head out to your nearby mall and rub on your way there to get you extra horny. Walk around the entire perimeter of mall and each floor. Make sure to enter every store you would likely enter if you were not in this predicament. If possible play close attention to the bottom shelves so you must bend o...

“The concept of ego reduction is predicated on the use of Sigmund Freud's concept of the ego to describe the conscious adult self; and broadly describes the deflating of an over-inflated or egotistical sense of oneself- a curtailment of what Iris Murdoch called “the anxious avaricious tentacles of the self””. – wikipedia The hallmark of the submissive ego is strategic subservience. When in this mode of thinking, people gain power not through the direct struggle for power but, instead, thr...

Many men want to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman they encounters. You see them all over Twitter feeds, begging to be humiliated and abused. There is nothing wrong with that. What I do see being a problem is Dommes forgetting that these are also human beings. People who deserve just as much respect as anyone else. This "need" that they have to be humiliated and degraded is not unlike any other fetish. I have found that most are ...

This is the opening statement on ALL of My profiles: "If you do not know what a FinDom is, I suggest you Google it. I am a FinDom/FemDomme Your wettest dream and worst nightmare rolled into one. Tread with caution." What part of this is unclear? Do your research...Google if you do not understand the words...do NOT message Me with bullshit. If you are seeking a Domme to serve, then it is on YOU to research the Domme before wasting time..yours and Hers. READ profiles and journal entries CARE...

Every experience we have, whether good or bad, presents us with an opportunity to learn. Today (well, last night into today) I took the opportunity presented to learn a lesson. A hard one. As a Dominant, the care of My submissive is very important to Me, and I am a great believer that I should never lose control of Myself at any time. If I can not control Myself, how then can I care for My submissive? I made the mistake of engaging in a serious scene with a submissive, after being awoken from...

I recently came across an interesting discussion in one of the groups on Fet. The original question was this: "Without a contract signed what's the best way to punish a slave who has been spiraling out of control?" As you can imagine, this led to various answers, from "kick him to the curb" to all sorts of punishments, etc. My response was this: "Dealing with subs is much like raising children. I actually use analogies as such at times, especially if My sub does have children. They crave a...