BBW_Findom

Something that baffles me is when I see a submissive write the following: "hello I am a good slave ready to give my wallet to a domme on Skype please message me if your interested"... At what point has a submissive gotten SO lazy that he can't be bothered to find his own domme? Speaking for myself I can honestly say that I have never and will never reply to these messages with a "pick me! Pick me!" response. Why should I chase after potential subs? Isn't it their role to research and conta...

Just a warning for dommes and subs that gofundme is not sex worker friendly. Using this website is likely to get your funds confiscated, be it a donation recipient or giver. http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/woman-specialising-financial-domination-set-10208615 What does everyone think about using websites such as gofundme for financial domination? Websites such as this are mainly seen as portals for charity fundraising, so are Findommes out of order for using them for sex work? Or is i...

So this week I have been interviewing domestic slaves and have managed to settle on one who will be starting on Monday. For those who arnt aware of domestic servitude, it means a slave who does all those yucky or annoying jobs you don't want to or don't have the time to do. For instance, my new slave will be cleaning the whole house from top top bottom, doing laundry, gardening, DIY and decorating. He will be working an eight hour day performing every demeaning task I give him. Although t...

From a dommes point of view, its easy to see how a sub can get aroused by the various fetish delights of findom. Our boys have to be strictly trained to keep their hands off their junk because the experience of serving us can quite easily push them over the edge. But what about us? With an influx of ladies flooding the scene for the "wrong reasons" we constantly see dommes point blank stating that they are different, they do this because it's their fetish. What does that mean? ...

I see subs being ridiculed on a daily basis. They are used and abused, which is what they're there for right? Whilst I love nothing more than humiliating my subs, rinsing them and making them suffer, they are still people. They have needs and lives beyond fetish and I feel that sometimes this is not appreciated. There seems to be a huge taboo about talking about your real life issues with your domme or sub as it could send them running for the hills. Personally I won't speak to a submissive in...

It doesn't matter where you go, or what you do, chances are you have been disrespected in the past. Trolls live under bridges all over the place and in fetish they are plentiful. In findom a domme becomes accustomed to being treated as a unique and respected individual by her submissives. She is put on a pedestal and worshiped. She demands respect and rules over her subs with a firm hand. So what happens when a submissive disrespects her? Well every domme is different. Some will block them, some...

There are thousands of fetishes, and in the era of the Internet we are able to partake in those fetishes so easily which is fantastic. Or is it? Some fetishes are dangerous and should only be experimented in with an experienced and competent partner who knows what they are doing. I recently entered a conversation with a submissive who was looking for real time meets. I only provide these with subs who I know and trust well as I value my own safety above and beyond anything else. After informing ...

So I have been doing some research for one of my blogs in relation to what makes a financial submissive become first attracted to a domme. Obviously your answer wont be linked back to you and you are more than welcome to send your answer in a private message if you prefer. I would love it if you would be so kind as to answer the following question: Which aspect of a financial domme is most important to you when choosing to serve? 1. Her appearance 2. Her personality ...

I've recently been getting to know a potential sub whom is married with a family. He has advised me that he is wanting to serve but in doing so he will also want to divorce his wife. When he said this I was thinking "yeah right!" I mean alot of slaves have the homewrecking fantasy but would never follow through with it. After speaking to him further, I get the impression that this is more than just a sexual fantasy and is something of a deep issue for him. I'm unsure on how to proceed. Should I ...

So recently I have had a few emails from newbie dommes asking for advice about timewasters. Firstly, I do not hold myself to be the all knowing wisdom on such matters as it all boils down to personal experience. Secondly, I am no where near as established and experienced as certain dommes, so their advice is perhaps more valuable than mine? Anyhow, I have put together a few top tips from Mistress Lulu for the newbies, and I hope it helps those who need it. #1. Be in control for the right rea...

Whilst I fully enjoy being spoiled by my faithful oinkers, my fetish for financial domination has grown into something far more exciting than I could ever have thought. As a person, I'd like to think I am kind, empathetic and thoughtful. I try to live my life in karmically positive way. However, as a domme, I am ruthless, cruel, controlling and fully enjoy the suffering and servitude of my submissive. With that in mind, I hope you can understand that my findom fantasies are quite extreme. Al...

Findom is complex. It's not a fetish that can be easily explained as it seems like every dom/me and sub have their own opinion on what the fetish means to them personally. My question is this... Do any genuine paypigs really want to be bankrupt for their master/mistress?! In my experience, those hardcore finsubs enjoy being controlled fully financially and will give every single penny to me after living expenses have been met. They will fill out an income and expenditure form and prove what t...