BBW_Findom

I have just recently decided to close down my findom Facebook account and leave it in the past. Although you may feel like saying "told ya so" (haha) I cannot express how frustrating it has been. If you are contemplating using fb for findom activities... I advise against it. It is a drama magnet. Wanting to make friends with other dommes and support each other is natural to many of us, but sometimes things turn sour. On most fetish websites there are specific rules about drama and to keep it p...

I think one of the most beautiful aspects of findom is that a subs appearance isn’t a concern from a my point of view. For instance: When I was single and looking for a partner, their appearance would play a big part in whether or not I was sexually attracted to them, and therefore whether or not I wanted to pursue a relationship. It may be shallow, but physical first impressions do count. Whilst I peruse slave applications, appearance plays absolutely no part in whether or not I feel they...

I had an interesting conversation with someone today. This someone was active in domestic discipline. For those of you who haven’t heard of domestic discipline, it is a rather taboo lifestyle these days and the set up is usually as follows: The wife/girlfriend submits to her husband/boyfriend in all ways on a 24/7 basis including being spanked/whipped/belted/beaten by the husband/boyfriend. What generally comes to mind is a 1950’s housewife who cleans and cooks and tends to her hubby’s eve...

As most of you will be aware, the sugar daddy/baby lifestyle is one that exists where a wealthy man (usually) bestows gifts and money upon a young lady (usually) in exchange for her affections. I believe the sugar daddy/baby scenario to have no place in the world of findoms. I feel they are quite toxic relationships where the female becomes reliant on her "sugar daddy" to fund her lifestyle which, to me, leaves her to be the submissive in the relationship. It would seem that some "findoms"...

So I have spoken in the past about what I feel findom is all about, but today I would like to share my visions of the perfect submissive and what TRUE submission means to me. Firstly I get a LOT of messages from “subs” wanting to be “owned”. It is plain as day that these guys are not true submissives, but horny porn addicts who want to be dominated for ten minutes until they have cum. You can tell what these guys are about straight away as they will immediately start talking about what THEY w...

I'm sure some of you have heard that I am doing a charity event called brave the shave for a cancer support charity in the UK. I did blog about this a few days ago, but had to remove it as I was unaware that it breached the rules on asking for charitable donations. Sorry! I am not blogging to ask for contributions however, just to share my experience with everyone. It has been abit of a roller coaster ride. When I first decided to do the shave, I was really excited and raring to go. Unfortuna...

I get a LOT of requests for blackmail from subs and I always find it to be a sketchy area of findom. Consensual online blackmail for me always includes a safe word. I feel there is a line that should never be crossed, and I feel more comfortable knowing that I will be told if I reach this line. Most of my subs have appreciated this sentiment, and I have never had a sub safe word me yet. For me, blackmail is a fantasy and therefore I will always make empty threats. I would never ruin a sub...

I had a very unusual experience the other day. I was attacked by an online troll. I’m not usually one for feeding the trolls, but my goodness did this one rub me up the wrong way. Here is what happened: I was busy minding my own business, browsing the web and what not, and a “sub” commented on one of my various posts about findom. This guy was supposedly an experienced chastity slave and regular findom communal pig. Anyway, one of the first things he said to me was that I looked grumpy and wa...

Forgive me, I am fairly new to blogging and slightly dyslexic. I thought I would share with you my take on being a domme and what it means to me. I accept that everyones experiences and thoughts are different on this, so in no way take what I say for a judgment on anyone else's mantra of BDSM. I am naturally dominant. At school I was always called "bossy" by other people. I tried to reign it in, but this just made it worse when I was true to myself. I have always known what I want and have n...

Hello ladies & piggies. I currently run my own business in the UK selling clothing, swim-wear & lingerie on a day to day basis. Some of the ladies here have said they would be interested in looking at my line of fetish clothing, so I have decided to post a couple of items through my blog incase there are any people interested in purchasing any of my goods. To order, all you have to do is mail me with the product number (starts with # in the top left hand corner of the picture), your desired ...

Hello ladies & piggies. I currently run my own business in the UK selling clothing, swim-wear & lingerie on a day to day basis. Some of the ladies here have said they would be interested in looking at my line of fetish clothing, so I have decided to post a couple of items through my blog incase there are any people interested in purchasing any of my goods. To order, all you have to do is mail me with the product number (starts with # in the top left hand corner of the picture), your desired s...