Findom IS NOT "sugaring"

It is actually really scary when people believe it is similar.

I am afraid it is important to make clear for everyone what domination (the 2nd part into the word FINDOM) means in reality! Domination indicates a kind of leadership! The dominant part knows the way and tells the submissive part (sub or slave) what to do / what to think. It must be clear that failures will not be accepted. On the same hand the dominant person has to take care of the submissive person. So it is leadership and protection by one hand. The sub / slave must feel protected and also leaded from the dominant person. If this kind of leading and caressing is not what you are offering - you are not a domme. If you can not give any leading orders to your sub or slave, if you do not feel dominant, maybe you are sweet and a good person - but you are not a domme! 

Agreed. It's okay to be both but, know the difference between the two and knowing they are not similar. 

I've been finding lately I get contacted by an unusual amount of men asking Me to be their sugar baby, despite me advertising that I'm a Domme seeking subs. I think the men are thinking any findom is desperate for cash and will play the role of anything for it. That may very well be true in some cases, and no hate on those women that do, I can just see why the men think if they cast their nets in these communities they'll end up finding somebody. There are women in these communities that *are* seeking a quick buck, and aren't educated on findom nor sugaring. It's unfortunate and I worry they may get caught up with the wrong guy. At best a scammer, at the worst an abusive man in any manner. I think the best thing to do when seeing this is to gently educate the women and hope she'll take your advice. I know we can't be responsible for everybody, but it's good to get the information out there and hope for a positive outcome.

Ooo so agreeing here!! Men do the same with me. I simply tell them I am not the sugar babying type and they definitely don't respond. The ones trying to make a quick are exactly what thier looking for..education, education, education it matters!!

im glad to see others who agree with me.

I concur

Late to the party but I agree.

I don't NEED their money. I want it. 

No Need just an intense desire.

yes it is.

I feel like this is what happens when sugaring and Findom become "trending" and there are some who don't bother to educate themselves beforehand. I've seen "Dommes" beg subs for money openly.