I posted this a long time ago and thought it might be helpful to some of the new boys. I've added a little to what I said before; I'm not scolding anyone, just offering a reminder. When approaching a Mistress/Domme for the first time, your opening comments are your first impression and if you blow it, don't expect a reply (not a friendly one anyway). I can't speak for other Dommes but can I tell you that I do not enjoy reading "Hello Mistress, can I be your Sub" over and over from you boys. ...

After seeing so many ladies pounce subs on Twitter as well as other sites I decided to go off on my own and do some research. A poll from subs as well as a lot of talking with other Dommes who have been in the scene for more than just a few days.  It turns out that 95% of the subs I spoke to said that having a Domme pounce them after posting on there wall or feed is downright annoying. I will post a "welcome to blah blah" but that is it. After that said sub must take the action to message me....

As a Goddess I should always be above you. You must feel like you can look up to me as a mentor, not fear me. You should be looking to befriend me but also feel inferior. Why do I say this? Because lately, I have seen Domme's giving away ownership like it is just a bag of candy. Yes, that works for some but not all. To me, ownership is just like a marriage. It should not be taken lightly. There has to be a strong bond formed through friendship or common interests that are outside kink. I have...