Warning to anyone reading. I am NOT making a judgment on any of these terms. Whatever you want to be BE IT. There is enough judgment from the outside world when it comes to findom. Even in the BDSM world most of us are judged. So the best way to combat that from my experience is to arm yourself with knowledge and perfect your skills to be seen as professional in this world. The conversation was brought about from a Pet that I don't own. He is a friend of mine. Yep, you heard me a friend. We h...

I will take what I post this morning straight from my Fetlife blog because I think it should also be shared with the community here. Remember ladies it does not make you less dominant to take care of your subs and care about them. " It has been a long time since I took the time to post things here. Mainly due to time. I have been busy educating people on Twitter about being Dominant. ...

The last few days have been a roller coaster training a group of 30 women who want to explore the BDSM world. Most of these ladies were in their 20s, 30s and 40s. When setting up these groups the mix of ages in important and here is the reason way. First, let's examine what usually happens with each age group.   20s ...

This is a list of some of the questions I ask any new sub. His/Her answers determine if I will allow them to serve me. 1- What is your experience in the BDSM world? New subs have to be trained and guided. They need extra time and tasks require more research. 2- Do you have a stable environment around you? Meaning does this person have a job, are they capable of paying their bills... ...

Now I won't be answering any of these questions myself in this post. I have answered them in my own content all over the internet. I have it posted on my website and so many other findom sites. If a sub wants to serve me, he/she also has to do their own research. The point is subs, if you get your mind out of your pants and use common sense there would be so much fewer instadoms.   Questions a submissive should be asking any Domme before committing to her.   ...

I have taken the time to list all of the frequent questions that I keep getting. I am doing this because it is getting time-consuming to answer all of the same questions over and over again. Also, it makes it easier for you as a sub/slave to chose me if you wish to serve. The questions are here. The answers are on my website and I will link you to it at the end. Feel free to comment with any more questions you may have and I will update it all only my website. I am doing it this way because it s...

See my dear I refuse to be like so many other Dommes that we see all over the internet and frankly I am just a sick of it as the other subs who have come to me before. So today I issue a challenge to any UNOWNED sub looking to be owned and would like to be considered by me. Send me a message being honest about what sets you apart from all the other subs who will take part in this challenge. Here are some questions to answer if you need help. ...

The Hunt vs The Wait.. This is a struggle I know all too well in the 17 years of dominating. As a dominant, there is a strong need to hunt down what I want like the prey they truly are. The need to stalk my prey, to get to know them from a distance before I pounce and make them mine. This method works in a crowded room. When you lock eyes with the right sub and you watch and their body language locks them in place. The confusion of fight or flight and then the complete surrender. This is the ...

A Financial Dominatrix is general is a (usually female) domme who men get a sexual release from giving them money and getting insulted by them. As a Lifestyle Financial Dominatrix, I offer financial advice to ensure that they do not waste all their money on the kink. I also discuss limits before I session. I will also only play safe sane and consensually. To build something our conversation must flow in and out of kink with ease. Just understand that with kink a price is to be paid. Keep mann...

We are all human so we all make mistakes. I have snapped on a slave before that didn't need it just because he caught me in the wrong mood and openly apologized for it. I have also had subs be completely selfish and I have called him out on it. To me this is who I am. I tell you how I feel regardless. I have found that they become selfish when I fail to meet their needs. It could be that I have faltered. Maybe I told them I would so something. Instead of asking if I had changed my mind or got...

Some of you may have noticed a poll I posted a few days ago and I posted something similar on Reddit for the same reasons. I am discussed by the way media has portrayed our fetish. I am upset even more by the amount of insta-domme's that have flooded the scene as a result. As a dominant myself I am sickened by it. Why?  As a dominant period, it is our responsibility to nurture the submissives that come to us. We need to know what is going on in there life. Are they stable, mentally, emotio...