"REAL Dommes never kneel!"

I've seen many a post with the sentiment that 'real' Dommes would NEVER submit to someone, with a great deal of venom towards anyone claiming otherwise. As a switch myself, I find this both amusing as I know it's not true, and deeply concerning as the two beliefs that this claim could be coming from are both very disturbing.

One possibility is they truly believe that submissives are weak, lesser beings outside of a scene and thus not worth serving. I've known many subs, in my service and as friends. Not one of them was weak. In addition to magnificently championing their own personal struggles and general lives, they have the strength to literally put their lives in the hands of another. Genuine submissives are some of the bravest and strongest people I know.

The other possibility is that they actually think subs don't need to give consent, meaning anyone can approach a switch Domme, boss them around, and they'll submit. This is the kind of mindset that lead 'Dom/mes' to message subs they've never talked to demeaningly, demanding to be called titles and given tribute.

To submit to someone is a MASSIVE leap of faith and trust. It's quite ignorant to assume a functional human will submit to someone just because they tell them to and call them 'slut.' I have submitted to only a handful of people in my life, and every single one of them approached me with respect and got to know me as a person first. No random internet 'Dom' is going to weaken or overpower a switch Domme.

If you genuinely believe that a sub is a sub for all, and consent is unnecessary, you are a disgrace and don't deserve the title of Domme, you know nothing of actual BDSM.

Being a switch has made me the Domme I am today. Intuitive, compassionate, devious, sadistic... Because I know what will get my sub into subspace both from the instinct of a dominant sadist as well as from their perspective. I've learned things from my own submissive experiences that I may not have learned for a while, like knowing that by telling them exactly what position I want them in will keep them focused and submissive rather than wondering what to do with their hands. I've experienced all sorts of bondage, from handcuffs to full suspension, and I know the kinds minute position changes that can increase strain tenfold. I could go on, but I've made my point.

In conclusion, I would urge anyone shaming switch Dommes to analyze where your belief is coming from, and I hope others can challenge this concerning sentiment.