The Beauty of Findom

I think one of the most beautiful aspects of findom is that a subs appearance isn’t a concern from a my point of view. For instance:

When I was single and looking for a partner, their appearance would play a big part in whether or not I was sexually attracted to them, and therefore whether or not I wanted to pursue a relationship. It may be shallow, but physical first impressions do count.

Whilst I peruse slave applications, appearance plays absolutely no part in whether or not I feel they would make a suitable slave.



This got me wondering what it actually is that I do find attractive in a potential fin slave. I can’t speak for other dommes but here is what I would say are the top most important traits of a good finsub:

Devotion – My slave must be devoted to MY needs. His needs are secondary to mine and he needs to know this. Any excuses, if’s or but’s as to why he “can’t” do something (within reason) will make me question his devotion to me.
Loyalty – My slave must be loyal to me and me alone. Like other dommes, I don’t want to see my slave liking every single dommes picture he finds or adding other dommes willy nilly on every website he is a member of.
Obedience – My slave must be obedient and follow instructions without question. Since hard limits are covered within the “under consideration” period, there is no reason as to why my slave cannot or will not follow any of my instructions. Failure to do as one is told will result in heavy punishment.
Financial Stability – My slave must be financially stable. I will only accept slaves who are able to fund themselves fully with plenty left over to give to me. If a sub lives hand to mouth or doesn’t know his outgoings from one month to the rest, he will not make the cut and will be limited to one off sessions.
At no point do I care how a sub looks. In reality, if I were to do a real time session with a trusted slave, I would care that he had good personal hygiene, but apart from that he could look like the elephant man and it would not impact on his ability to be a great slave.

What is your point Mistress L? Yeah I have been rambling abit, haven’t I? My point is this… I see so many shy subs, so much potential hiding behind computer screens, too nervous to reach out to dominating women. Why? I have asked around and it turns out that many subs have low self esteem due to their appearance…

I hope I have made myself abundantly clear, that appearance has nothing to do with what makes a good slave, and I hope that those who have felt too shy to branch out into the world of findom until now, or are still feeling too shy to send that message to the domme of their dreams, are able to gain some confidence from this and take that first step to becoming the perfect piggy.