Sexual Freedom

I had an interesting conversation with someone today. This someone was active in domestic discipline.

For those of you who haven’t heard of domestic discipline, it is a rather taboo lifestyle these days and the set up is usually as follows:

The wife/girlfriend submits to her husband/boyfriend in all ways on a 24/7 basis including being spanked/whipped/belted/beaten by the husband/boyfriend. What generally comes to mind is a 1950’s housewife who cleans and cooks and tends to her hubby’s every whim and doesn’t put a toe out of line in fear of being taken in hand by her significant other.

It has caused a lot of controversy as, although some women may be happy to live this way and fully consenting, there are some genuine cases where this is just a fancy name and excuse for domestic violence. Indeed, some women are genuine fear for their lives and unsure of how to break free. This is where the arguments come in, for or against.

I myself believe that if two adults are 1000% consenting, not hurting anyone else in the process and abiding by the law then live and let live. I can however understand that there are many toxic relationships where one party is not consenting or happy, and these types of relationships have no place in the modern world.

I digress… The fella I was speaking to is within (what he claims) is a consenting domestic discipline marriage, and could not for the life of him get his head around findom or femdom. He genuinely believed that men were all alphas and all women were betas. Some of the hilarious quotes he came out with are as follows:

“Women have smaller brains than men which has been proven by science, so therefore cannot possibly be as intelligent as men”.

“Women were given wombs by God to bear children…that is their purpose, so therefore their purpose is a sexual object leading to reproduction”.

“There are no such things as female orgasms. I have had many sexual partners in 47 years of life and never once have I ever seen a real female orgasm. It has been created by the sex industry to sell more marital aids and by feminists who want to be just like men and feel they have to be able to do everything a man can do. Feminazis just can’t stand it that men can do something they can’t. The whole point of an orgasm is to release sperm for reproduction… Why would a women need to orgasm if that is the case”.

When I came back with valid points, he lost his rag with me and told me to read a bible. You can’t make this stuff up can you?!



What I want to talk about is the “points” he made about female orgasm. I found it very saddening that he honestly believed the drivel he was coming out with and it made me feel so sad for his wife, whom I can only imagine has never had and never will have an orgasm.

Orgasms in a loving and intimate relationship are very important. What better way to say “I love you” than spending the time getting to know your partners body and giving them selfless pleasure. This caveman’s wife must have the patience of an angel to stay with someone so selfish.

But then… What if this fool has children… What if it is left to him to discuss the bird’s and the bee’s with our next generation? I myself was taught about sexual reproduction by a trusted family member who was very liberated and honest, which I am thankful for. But is it okay for people like this man to teach selfish sex?? To stunt another persons blossoming sexuality?? To teach (wrongly) that desires are shameful and disgusting??

Practically there is nothing I, or anyone else, can do about it. People like this will always be around, shaming fetish and stunting sexuality… It is a vicious circle, as they teach the next generation these backwards ways, the next generation will pass it on and so on and so forth.

But take a moment to thank your lucky stars that you are here, reading this! If you were unable to celebrate your sexual preferences and fetishes, you would not likely be here knowing what I am banging on about. Whether sub or dom, alpha or beta, male or female or TG/TS, straight, gay or bi… Take a moment to inwardly thank all those people who accept you, online and in real time. You guys are amazing and you have the freedom to express yourself!

The next time anyone tries to make you feel ashamed of who you are and what you like, just remember, their sex life must really really fucking stink!