Intimacy

We've all heard it time and time again - those who have an actual idea of what they're doing decrying the fact that Insta-Dommes don't take the time to get to know submissives before they start making demands. That's all very well and dandy, but I think those people are under the impression s-types fit into a "one size fits all" mold, or that every person who calls themselves a submissive must BE a submissive. Most "subs" I've seen are actually fetishists/ kinksters who have absolutely NO interest in submitting or following orders, unless it involves being told to masturbate to completion. That's fine - this is sexwork, I understand that is part and parcel of certain kinds of sessions... but it still irks Me to no end how something as simple as "Power Exchange" can be misconstrued into "Guided Masturbation".

The Porn Industry doesn't help the confusion - although I never had anyone think the Halloween movies were pornos after that one parody, but I digress - because it often SEXUALIZES power exchange dynamics. The role of BDSM in a Dynamic is being quite undervalued if the whole point is orgasm. Hell, when I was training at La Domaine, you didn't cum without permission and most of the day was spent doing chores. On the weekends, there would be a play party, but only the couples would be getting each other off, the slaves would either be cleaning up messes or being tortured in a way that was not meant to be enjoyable for anyone but the Sadist working on them. I digress, again...

If you think obeying means you're ENTITLED to an orgasm, find a different person to submit to, one that wants your balls drained. There is a reason I prefer older male slaves - not only do they have their shit together, they understand that intimacy is more important in a dynamic than getting off. These are men who have a real, burning desire in their soul to make a woman happy. They are loyal and knowing their fetishes helps Me reward them, train them, as opposed to having them look at Me as an obstacle to be overcome (pardon the pun).

Playtime's over - I want someone to belong to ME and mean it.