My take on being a domme

Forgive me, I am fairly new to blogging and slightly dyslexic. I thought I would share with you my take on being a domme and what it means to me. I accept that everyones experiences and thoughts are different on this, so in no way take what I say for a judgment on anyone else's mantra of BDSM.

I am naturally dominant. At school I was always called "bossy" by other people. I tried to reign it in, but this just made it worse when I was true to myself. I have always known what I want and have never let anyone or anything get in the way of that. I've fought some battles in my time to get what I have wanted. I am not selfish, I do put the people I love before myself, but I will never be told "No".

When I started domming, it was a whole new world to me. I found it easy yet confusing. So many people have different ideas of what they want or what they think a domme is. Some "subs" manipulate you into thinking you are in control but when you scrape away the bull shit you find that they are calling the shots. Some subs emotionally blackmail you and add drama to something that should be so simple.

I digress... To me, being a domme is being someones everything. It is like having someone in in love with you, consumed by you, infatuated with you. Having someone who will tell you that you are right even when you are wrong, someone who will do anything to please you, to amuse you, to make you happy.

True submissives are not given enough credit. True submissives are truly selfless, beautiful beings who will lay in the dirt for the satisfaction that their domme does not get her shoes dirty. They are humiliated, degraded, even de-humanised in some cases, but a real domme has a deep unspoken respect for her slave whilst she whips him and gives up his power to her, after all... not all men are able to do this, to take this, to allow this.

There is a strange fondness that we feel for our subs that is not easy to describe. Without them we would not be able to truly express our nature. It is like the fondness of a family pet; obedient, loyal and will always come back to you no matter how badly you punish them.

With Findom I find it easier to tell the true submissive from the part timers. If they are willing to pay you for no other reward than your happiness, it is easy to see a true sub soul. I have never had much time for part timers (ya' know the ones that are so obedient until they achieve their happy ending and block you for 2 months whilst they get over the "shame" before wanting to do it all over again). That being said, I have always been able to separate "d/s time" from "fancy a chat" time. Some subs like this, some don't. Everybody is different... and I think that is my favourite thing. You never know what new kink you will bump into next!

So here's to the ladies and the subs and the unspoken acceptance we all show eachother!