It's Not About the Money, It's an Addiction

According to Wikipedia, "Financial domination (also known as findom) is a fetish lifestyle activity in which a submissive is required to give gifts or money to a dominant." Basically, yes, that is what findom is, however, what that sentence doesn't state, is how findom is an addiction, for both finsub and yes, Domme, alike. 

The finsub has this need, want, and desire, to make a Domme happy. The sub gets a rush when they give to a Domme, a high, as if they have taken a drug .It makes them feel happy to give. The Domme also gets a high from the power, and control, she has over that sub, to make him send. There is a moment in time, when both Domme and sub, "get high" at the same time. However, for many finsubs, the high comes with a big crash after the moment, while the Domme continues to bask in hers. 

Finsubs have this craving, this need, to give, to serve a Domme and make her happy. It truly feels good while doing so. But, after the wallet is drained, after the money is gone, comes the feeling of remorse, of regret, of shame and the "I am never going to do that again." However, just like with any addiction, the feeling comes back, and the cycle starts again. 

The Domme also has an addiction, she is addicted to power and control, and getting a finsub's money is just an added bonus. Her addiction, however, doesn't end in the feeling of remorse, regret, or shame. Each time a Domme flexes her power and control, she grows stronger, and wants more. But this is not a bad thing, because both Finsub and Domme feed off of each other's addiction. They need each other. They are, in essence, each other dealers. As a Domme, I have what a finsub wants, and as a finsub, you have what I want...to control you. 

Both Domme and finsub have been living this way for years and years. Some finsubs are able to control themselves and they do leave the lifestyle, but many relapse. If you are a finsub who enjoys and needs to give, there are ways to do so that will not ruin you financially or give you that high, and then the awful crash. I, myself, give my boys the best of both worlds. My boys tribute on a schedule, this way they don't have to feel remorse after the high melts away, they just get to feel the constant happiness of giving. I do have those that prefer the drain, and for those finsubs, I give them what they need and desire.

If you want to get the high without the crash afterwards, reach out to this Goddess. There are ways that we can both feed our addictions where both get to feel the constant high. I know the crash comes with the lifestyle, but I also realize that, if my finsub always feels that high, I, too, will feel that high more often.I form long and lasting relationships with my subs, I don't use them and toss them away like tissue. I know the higher we both get, the longer the relationship lasts. Come, let's be each other's dealer.