Sweet Spots

The art of rationality is rather simple for those who think rather than dream; although the two correlate often. I do think it is one of the best approaches of analytical mind in findom. W/we all have desires, yet those sometimes will not align the way W/we want them to. There will always be a sweet spot.



A wonderful example of this is when the dream is bigger than the budget, which more often than not it is. Wanting to be controlled in a TPE type of relationship with constant micromanagement or other time consuming aspects for the Female in an F/m relationship, which some Dommes like Myself and others enjoy, is a rather heavy obligation. This is only pleasing if the budget is satisfying and ultimately exceeds expectations for the obligations, effort, and time spent with the submissive on B/both sides.

How on Earth can a Domme put in so much to receive so little? I will never know the answer to this, but rather I look at three main things when talking to a new submissive:

1. What is it that the submissive thinks they need/want (is it what they really need)?
2. Are they willing and able to meet the budget I would require?
3. Is there any spark at all if it is to be long term servitude? (without a spark or chemistry it is not worth the excessive effort)

Keep in mind these questions cannot be answered in one sitting normally, so it takes effort on B/both parts to explore if the connection, effort, and expectations are solid and can be met.

Admittedly, at times I am told things I think are sold solely to draw Me in rather than out of ant sense of honesty. That is an automatic brick wall being placed because one lie leads to many more. So, do a favor for yourself and the Domme you are seeking and aim within the realm of reality in your budget. Granted W/we will all still dream, and often times reality and fantasy mingle within, but it is more rational to approach wanting daily communication via letters, tasks, and such without the depth or to even admit to the Domme that intentions are that of a shallow being whom is only seeking a short lived thrill.

It is all in all proper respect of E/everyone to keep in mind if your dreams don’t fit the budget, they will always just be dreams or rather disappointments. Budget conversations are a MUST unless it is a random tribute to a Domme not yet been served by the submissive and the submissive understanding that the Domme is not held to give anything in return for a tribute. This is why I often refer to them as offerings.

All too often things get mixed up in the sense of I feel like some are buying services rather than giving servitude; there is a big difference, although neither is wrong so long as the actions are true to the words. As much as I love to toy and play with the inferior mentality in various ways I only do so if it pleases Me; money is only a portion of what makes it so enjoyable.