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on June 17, 2016
OMG here She goes again. I can almost hear you groaning as you notice that there is another blog post by Me. Haha, yeah I know I write a lot, but eh how else are you going to get to know Me?
Today isn't so much just about me however and more a little about all of you as well. More to the point those among you who are a little frustrated and confused right now.
One of the Ladies I grew actually rather fond of just left financial domination after less then a year, because in her words she didn't seem to be able to get anywhere with the boys. She wasn't getting the approaches and constant tributes she kept reading and hearing about. She was frustrated and felt that just maybe she wasn't doing it right. Well by this point it stopped being fun for her and so yes it is best to just step away. No good doing something that brings you just annoyances and self-doubt.
That made me think however that maybe it's time for a little reminder to all those who are new or still fairly new. For those who are not among the super popular ones or those who front as being super popular. For those who may doubt a little and perhaps feel frustrated with the lack of focus and attention from the boys. Even for the boys who are still trying to figure out what and who they are. So here goes nothing from a Lady who has been in this World for a long ass time.
Patience isn't just a virtue but a requirement in this fetish in particular!
Every single time I see someone assuming you can just get into this fetish, flip your cute little fingers, say fuck you pay me, and the money just rolls in because that is what you think you see happening, I want to puke. Trust me it doesn't work like that. It may work for some, some of the time, but it doesn't work for everyone all of the time.
Financial Domination or Financial Fetish is not a get rich quick scheme nor is it as easy as people want to make it out to be. It's not a no brainer fetish either. You actually have to have a brain, some sort of personality, some sort of understanding of the fetish, and oh yes some creativity. You have to be willing to learn what this fetish is about and understand that there are very few if any pure financial slaves. Meaning that handing you their hard earned money and not require anything at all ---- pure!
In most cases you will encounter fetishists who are willing to pay you for fetish sessions or submissives who will enjoy serving you in a diverse arena of different fetishes and kinks but are fully ok with tributing you to show their appreciation for your time, expertise and because it is what subs do.
If you are brand new and happen to have a look about you that guys get horny for you may do really well to start out with, but suddenly your new girl status wears off and now you aren't getting shit. A lot of girls gets confused. What happened? Well for one you got all the newbie samplers who just want to check out the newest flavor on the market. You know kind of like in High School when the new girl was the hot new item on the menu? Same mentality. Once the newness wears off you are no longer the hot ticket to go with and now you actually have to have something to offer.
I have been around for ages, but I had left the communities for several years. I pretty much stayed to myself and I even put financial domination as a "low burner" in my fetishes. I still enjoyed it with those who really got off on it or those who understood that online serving Me means financially while the rest is conditioning and play time, rewards etc. In general so I didn't push it because I had gotten frustrated with the influx of the new mindsets. I needed to adjust and see to what extend I felt comfortable with the chances and what I was willing to adept into my style. You do have to evolve in this fetish and accept some of the chances if you want to remain relevant, but you still have to be true to yourself as well.
So when I came back about 2 months ago, I essentially entered here as a "new" to the community person. Only unlike you girls who are brand new I already came into this with a reputation, with an advanced age (46) and with a non-model body type. So I entered into this in the gray area that fights the "myths" about femdom and findomme existence.
Now I do receive nice sized tributes from time to time (by that I mean tributes in the 100's) but they are not coming from here ... at least yet. So far here I received 2 small courtesy tributes (thank you, you know who you are) and 2 approaches that turned out to be flaky. Not that great right? Ok, stop so...
That is not unusual!!!! The good boys who are looking for more than the shallow tend to not approach quickly but often times watch you, read what you have to say, follow you for a while. They want to see if you are consistent, will stick around, if they like what they see and read. They actually research you a little first. That can take months at times before they feel comfortable to approach you.
Oh darlings, you have to actually be active and seen too. That goes for both sides. Just browsing profiles and adding "friends" willy nilly isn't the greatest idea. Take a look at my friends list. Did you notice I have very few friends on mine? I don't accept every friends request that comes in and boys have to actually either have interactions with me or actually tribute or serve me to be added. I have a protocol for how I want to have things done and yes that means a lot of people will be weeded out. I know you'd think boys love protocols, but the majority of guys don't want to have to work for the honor of being on a Ladies List. I am not interested in lazy guys.
Now I am also a Lady who actually does bring up tributes and games for multiple Ladies to be tributed by brave boys in the chatroom from time to time. I know some see that as "chasing subs" and I don't see it that way at all. Chasing means you keep haunting them and keep mass emailing and all that other stupid crap. I bring financial fetish into a financial domination community chatroom and allow boys the opportunity to play and enjoy in a fun way. If I propose a game I speak to them in private first, give them the rules, who all will be involved, and allow them to either partake of the opportunity or politely decline. So far they have declined and that is fine, but I will continue to try, because gosh damn we need to stop acting as if financial fetish / domination / tributing is such a dirty word here.
The point so is that even so at the moment the results are far from stellar for me personally I continue to do so. I do that, because I KNOW that it takes time. It takes for the right type of submissive male to come along who enjoys MY style, MY personality, MY preferences and find himself drawn to me.
Look at the ratio (not just in this community but overall) of Ladies in this fetish to males who have even a slight interest in this fetish. Not those who claim they do, but those who actually enjoy it and get off on it either physically or mentally. Then ask yourself again, why you are not getting money just thrown at you. You have to stand out, be seen, be patient, and oh yes be secure in yourself and know what it is you are doing.
Confidence is sexy as hell, but it has to be real not just pretended because trust me they can tell the difference. Don't buy into the hype that all guys are stupid. They are far from dumb! They know how to manipulate you gals just as much as some of us know how to manipulate them.
While you wait for the right ones to come along hone your skills. Learn some new ones. Explores some other fetishes and kinks and get adept at them. Broaden your horizons and spectrum. Don't get stuck on one thing.
No you don't have to be a full on Femdomme like myself and 100's of other Ladies, but you have to be at least some sort of Fetish Queen who is able to offer more than just jiggly bits and pieces and flipped little finger. At least if you want to be around in 10 years. I know I will and I would love to see some of you still here then too.
Most of all so. Remember this. No matter what it is you do, no matter what fetish you indulge in, no matter what kinky thing floats your boat, it has to be fun to you and arousing. That is what fetishes are... AROUSING --- mentally, physically and even emotionally at times. If it isn't that for you, quit and find something else.
If you love what you do and it makes you happy then being patient is not a hardship. Interact with the Ladies in Chat, hopefully the boys too (you all really need to get a lot more active and I am talking to you non-us and non-owned ones now) and who knows what comes out of it.
Remember one thing ....
The site Owners and all the Moderators can only provide you with a great platform and community that feels save, they can't force anyone to tribute you nor should say. They can't make the boys live up to their claims. You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to anyways. That's another myth.
The rest is up to you! So instead of getting frustrated and doubting yourself, remember that not everything you read is true and that there are probably more women who are not rolling in tributes in this fetish then those who are. Give yourself some time and let good things come to you by being your amazing skilled little selves.
Oh and to you newer boys, you are never going to experience what it is like to be dominated and of use unless you put yourself out there. Don't wait for women to chase you down and "force you". A lot of the best Ladies are not going to stoop to that level. They are Queens and Goddesses who are used to being approached and chased after. In their eyes it's the peasants who entertain and work for the attention, not the Queens on their Thrones.
We may joke around and goof around in open chat, but trust me when it comes to actually dealing with the boys we still have standards and require for you to get off your asses and on your knees. Keep that in mind. Some will hunt you and chase you (and that is fine too - it's their style and eh different strokes for different folks), but don't assume that we all will.
Be active, be sincere, be out there showing us you exist, and be brave enough to do proper contacts to the ones you feel interested in. Oh and for heavens sake, don't assume you get attention for free all the time. You are here to SERVE or if you are not a sub but a fetish boy, to pay for your fetish fix. Either way is fine, but this is not a freebie society for the pervert challenged. Got that? Good, I knew you had it in you!!!
XOXO
Goddess Bella Donna
Today isn't so much just about me however and more a little about all of you as well. More to the point those among you who are a little frustrated and confused right now.
One of the Ladies I grew actually rather fond of just left financial domination after less then a year, because in her words she didn't seem to be able to get anywhere with the boys. She wasn't getting the approaches and constant tributes she kept reading and hearing about. She was frustrated and felt that just maybe she wasn't doing it right. Well by this point it stopped being fun for her and so yes it is best to just step away. No good doing something that brings you just annoyances and self-doubt.
That made me think however that maybe it's time for a little reminder to all those who are new or still fairly new. For those who are not among the super popular ones or those who front as being super popular. For those who may doubt a little and perhaps feel frustrated with the lack of focus and attention from the boys. Even for the boys who are still trying to figure out what and who they are. So here goes nothing from a Lady who has been in this World for a long ass time.
Patience isn't just a virtue but a requirement in this fetish in particular!
Every single time I see someone assuming you can just get into this fetish, flip your cute little fingers, say fuck you pay me, and the money just rolls in because that is what you think you see happening, I want to puke. Trust me it doesn't work like that. It may work for some, some of the time, but it doesn't work for everyone all of the time.
Financial Domination or Financial Fetish is not a get rich quick scheme nor is it as easy as people want to make it out to be. It's not a no brainer fetish either. You actually have to have a brain, some sort of personality, some sort of understanding of the fetish, and oh yes some creativity. You have to be willing to learn what this fetish is about and understand that there are very few if any pure financial slaves. Meaning that handing you their hard earned money and not require anything at all ---- pure!
In most cases you will encounter fetishists who are willing to pay you for fetish sessions or submissives who will enjoy serving you in a diverse arena of different fetishes and kinks but are fully ok with tributing you to show their appreciation for your time, expertise and because it is what subs do.
If you are brand new and happen to have a look about you that guys get horny for you may do really well to start out with, but suddenly your new girl status wears off and now you aren't getting shit. A lot of girls gets confused. What happened? Well for one you got all the newbie samplers who just want to check out the newest flavor on the market. You know kind of like in High School when the new girl was the hot new item on the menu? Same mentality. Once the newness wears off you are no longer the hot ticket to go with and now you actually have to have something to offer.
I have been around for ages, but I had left the communities for several years. I pretty much stayed to myself and I even put financial domination as a "low burner" in my fetishes. I still enjoyed it with those who really got off on it or those who understood that online serving Me means financially while the rest is conditioning and play time, rewards etc. In general so I didn't push it because I had gotten frustrated with the influx of the new mindsets. I needed to adjust and see to what extend I felt comfortable with the chances and what I was willing to adept into my style. You do have to evolve in this fetish and accept some of the chances if you want to remain relevant, but you still have to be true to yourself as well.
So when I came back about 2 months ago, I essentially entered here as a "new" to the community person. Only unlike you girls who are brand new I already came into this with a reputation, with an advanced age (46) and with a non-model body type. So I entered into this in the gray area that fights the "myths" about femdom and findomme existence.
Now I do receive nice sized tributes from time to time (by that I mean tributes in the 100's) but they are not coming from here ... at least yet. So far here I received 2 small courtesy tributes (thank you, you know who you are) and 2 approaches that turned out to be flaky. Not that great right? Ok, stop so...
That is not unusual!!!! The good boys who are looking for more than the shallow tend to not approach quickly but often times watch you, read what you have to say, follow you for a while. They want to see if you are consistent, will stick around, if they like what they see and read. They actually research you a little first. That can take months at times before they feel comfortable to approach you.
Oh darlings, you have to actually be active and seen too. That goes for both sides. Just browsing profiles and adding "friends" willy nilly isn't the greatest idea. Take a look at my friends list. Did you notice I have very few friends on mine? I don't accept every friends request that comes in and boys have to actually either have interactions with me or actually tribute or serve me to be added. I have a protocol for how I want to have things done and yes that means a lot of people will be weeded out. I know you'd think boys love protocols, but the majority of guys don't want to have to work for the honor of being on a Ladies List. I am not interested in lazy guys.
Now I am also a Lady who actually does bring up tributes and games for multiple Ladies to be tributed by brave boys in the chatroom from time to time. I know some see that as "chasing subs" and I don't see it that way at all. Chasing means you keep haunting them and keep mass emailing and all that other stupid crap. I bring financial fetish into a financial domination community chatroom and allow boys the opportunity to play and enjoy in a fun way. If I propose a game I speak to them in private first, give them the rules, who all will be involved, and allow them to either partake of the opportunity or politely decline. So far they have declined and that is fine, but I will continue to try, because gosh damn we need to stop acting as if financial fetish / domination / tributing is such a dirty word here.
The point so is that even so at the moment the results are far from stellar for me personally I continue to do so. I do that, because I KNOW that it takes time. It takes for the right type of submissive male to come along who enjoys MY style, MY personality, MY preferences and find himself drawn to me.
Look at the ratio (not just in this community but overall) of Ladies in this fetish to males who have even a slight interest in this fetish. Not those who claim they do, but those who actually enjoy it and get off on it either physically or mentally. Then ask yourself again, why you are not getting money just thrown at you. You have to stand out, be seen, be patient, and oh yes be secure in yourself and know what it is you are doing.
Confidence is sexy as hell, but it has to be real not just pretended because trust me they can tell the difference. Don't buy into the hype that all guys are stupid. They are far from dumb! They know how to manipulate you gals just as much as some of us know how to manipulate them.
While you wait for the right ones to come along hone your skills. Learn some new ones. Explores some other fetishes and kinks and get adept at them. Broaden your horizons and spectrum. Don't get stuck on one thing.
No you don't have to be a full on Femdomme like myself and 100's of other Ladies, but you have to be at least some sort of Fetish Queen who is able to offer more than just jiggly bits and pieces and flipped little finger. At least if you want to be around in 10 years. I know I will and I would love to see some of you still here then too.
Most of all so. Remember this. No matter what it is you do, no matter what fetish you indulge in, no matter what kinky thing floats your boat, it has to be fun to you and arousing. That is what fetishes are... AROUSING --- mentally, physically and even emotionally at times. If it isn't that for you, quit and find something else.
If you love what you do and it makes you happy then being patient is not a hardship. Interact with the Ladies in Chat, hopefully the boys too (you all really need to get a lot more active and I am talking to you non-us and non-owned ones now) and who knows what comes out of it.
Remember one thing ....
The site Owners and all the Moderators can only provide you with a great platform and community that feels save, they can't force anyone to tribute you nor should say. They can't make the boys live up to their claims. You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to anyways. That's another myth.
The rest is up to you! So instead of getting frustrated and doubting yourself, remember that not everything you read is true and that there are probably more women who are not rolling in tributes in this fetish then those who are. Give yourself some time and let good things come to you by being your amazing skilled little selves.
Oh and to you newer boys, you are never going to experience what it is like to be dominated and of use unless you put yourself out there. Don't wait for women to chase you down and "force you". A lot of the best Ladies are not going to stoop to that level. They are Queens and Goddesses who are used to being approached and chased after. In their eyes it's the peasants who entertain and work for the attention, not the Queens on their Thrones.
We may joke around and goof around in open chat, but trust me when it comes to actually dealing with the boys we still have standards and require for you to get off your asses and on your knees. Keep that in mind. Some will hunt you and chase you (and that is fine too - it's their style and eh different strokes for different folks), but don't assume that we all will.
Be active, be sincere, be out there showing us you exist, and be brave enough to do proper contacts to the ones you feel interested in. Oh and for heavens sake, don't assume you get attention for free all the time. You are here to SERVE or if you are not a sub but a fetish boy, to pay for your fetish fix. Either way is fine, but this is not a freebie society for the pervert challenged. Got that? Good, I knew you had it in you!!!
XOXO
Goddess Bella Donna
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