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Faiwhimsy
by on April 27, 2021
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Hello powerful dommes and submissive financial slaves,

I wanted to write a blog on being an ethical domme, and I hope to hear some comments from submissives and dommes. 

What are your views on dominating ethically, and being dominated ethically?

As a domme, I believe it is my responsibility to encourage you to pay your bills. If your not paying your bills, you wont be able to serve me properly. I need you with a house, job, internet and money. If your not taking care of yourself and your essential needs you will soon be unable to serve me, which leaves you worthless to be in a submissive sense. By taking care of your bills you ARE serving me. Especially if you are a long term sub. The only place where I can make this easy is under a TPE agreement, where I can make sure everything is paid and I can control your spending of the money you surrender to me. In my links, I have a link to sex addiction help, and this is how I offer help to whale subs and community subs who are falling into an addictive behaviour that is beyond their control. 

Domme/Dom's - how do you make sure your submissive is taking care of bills and their health. Making sure they're keeping clean and fed for their jobs so they continue to serve you financially? I especially want to know how you take care of short term subs, I know this is an area where you hope they are using logic with their community sends and whale sends.

Subs, are you setting limits with your dommes, do you know that you will best serve your domme with a roof over your head, especially if you want to work with them long term? Does being ethically dominated turn you off, and if so, what aspect?

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CopperLotus
So, this falls under Total Power Exchange, to me. Not necessarily ethics. The only way a Domme has any say, control, etc over a sub is of that subs offers that exchange of power up. My slave is under TPE. I control his bank, credit cards, etc. We use spreadsheets, and have open dialogue every weeken... View more
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Faiwhimsy
Thanks for the reply, I love to hear from more people. I agree, the best way for a domme to properly make sure their sub is being taken care of is TPE because then you have all the information you need. Community subs and bingers are left to decide what is right for them. Thank you for sharing.
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Mistress Lagertha
I take charge ethically we do have a responsibility to the aftercare of are they able to live, dress feed themselves and their families!
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Mistress Lagertha
Oops hit send too early. . . Anyway, budgeting is where I start after they have provided me with full financial information, they then ask permission to keep extra if something is needed otherwise it’s mine after basic living is covered. With one I even visited his home to teach him how to clean.
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Johnny
I think this is an extremely important topic. Thank you for posting it. I think ethical domination is essential. It can be exciting to imagine no-limits but fantasy and reality can often result in a horrible mis-match. Personally I think such mis-matches most often result disappointment for the dom... View more
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Mistress Lagertha
I’d say it depends very much on the experience of a dominant and our level of commitment to limits. If it’s just lip service then yes it will erode very quickly. However if sincere it will out last the dynamic itself - or at least that is my experience and observations.
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