But what is in it for me?

 I am not talking about the question some ask when tribute is mentioned but really what is in it for me!

I (like many Dommes) get asked for various things on a regualr basis, Mistress can you do this  Mistress can you do that? Dress me up,humiliate me  and so on, can I do those things, yes, do I want to do those things? That is a different question

I only do and engage in stuff that I enjoy, of course I want my subs to enjoy it but the enjoyment has to be a 2 way thing

So I have to question what is really in it for me, will I enjoy the session? Will it bring me pleasure in any way? If the answer is no then the chances are I won't do it! 

If it is clear on your approach that it is all about you that is a turn off for me, there is nothing in that for me

Let us take ownership for example what do I get from it? What do you bring to the table that pleases me? You may be happy and getting what you want but I have to be getting something from it as well