A Domme's Invisible Burden

I've seen some wonderful blogs regarding submissives, and their opinions, and their experiences. I wanted to share something that I think most Domme's experience. Starting off any new relationship whether it be friendly or with the intent of ownership with a sub, there comes a moment during the initial tribute and scene, where things are flowing quite well. And the Domme commands the sub to make some tributes, possibly even over several days. This is also why it is a great show of whether a sub is truly interested, or a simply community sub. A truly interested sub will only chat with ONE Domme at a time, because in the end... that is how you get to know them, and be available to be used by them. If entertaining multiple Women, eventually the wallet is emptied, and well let's be real - you just wanted the attention. That is for a different blog entirely, lol. 

When do the tributes and offerings really come to a stop, when not in a professional setting? Meaning - no clips, no services, no product really for sale. Just the lifestyle core of the fetish, where power is the ultimate end of the game. 

A Domme is typically feeling out the process and how much a sub can handle. Especially if it is the first interaction between the two. There's always that little issue of.. if I go too hard, they will assume Im only after money. When really? Just figuring out your limits.Typically one doesnt want to hit the limit right in the beginning, but savor the interaction. At least that is me, I am not a hit it and quit it. I'd rather enjoy my time completely breaking and removing any will power that sub thought he had in my presence.

Then there comes the moment after trust and ownership has been established. My slave will literally trust me with his all. I can take as I please, there are no real 'limits'. Well, no spoken limits. I've asked him in the past, what would be something to....'scare' him, etc. Apparently more than $300 at once. Which is interesting, because monthly.. I exceed that. There's small withdrawals, and sometimes larger ones.

But the issue the title of this blog is seeking to put into words is.. when its all in the Domme's hands, there is this invisible burden to be the responsible one. My slave gets to offer everything to me, and I mean everything. And I have to be the responsible one...not to bankroll him. Its part of that enticing and erotic dynamic of a total power exchange, but it does weigh heavy. Especially towards the end of the month, where we've had some fun.. but really stretching some limits. At the end of the day, the bills must be paid, and it is only FUN when those bills are manageable.

Making sure my little slut can pay off what he needs to, to give me everything again next month... its a responsibility. Much like aftercare is needed after a scene. It is why I have access to his bank, all credit cards, and anything my heart desires. 

Though there are times... I just want to shrug that load off and go on my Domme high, yes Dommes float on power, and get whatever pleases me. Have many Dommes struggled with that? I suppose, if the sub is still in control of their finances - it more reflects the earlier part of the blog. At some point communication of course on what a sub can do mothly, etc. But that always detracts from that.... complete high, Domme and sub alike, that I am sure we all find addicting. 

Please, chime in and lets have some kinky chat!