Regain Control

A fellow Domme recently posted about how there are male members who claim they are college students, and can not offer a tribute. I've heard this line, as well as, I have to wait till paycheck day. This got me thinking about why subs do this, and why we sometimes as Dommes, entertain the silly madness. There comes a time where excuses are simply too much, and a boy is given too many chances. I've entertained the "I was away on business", but yet the fool still logged in and added Dommes, and for some reason my messages went ignored. I entertained that sub because he expressed true interest in me as a Domme, and tributed. Tributes doesnt always mean they truly value YOU and your time. Though for whatever reason, games and disappearing was just his modus operandi. There are probably many ways a Domme can handle a situation regarding subs that will tribute, then make excuses for why they can not again, or simply dont tribute and beg to when they can. You know what the best way I've discovered works for me and my peace of mind?

I reiterate what is expected of an inferior male to please me, then leave the groundwork for the BOY to cover. The email address for the giftcard to be sent is in view for all, and I simply dont have the time to entertain what I know to be someone wasting my time. That's my suggestion for any Dommes trying to figure out how to handle someone that makes excuses, tell them what to do one more time, and let it go. Not worth your attention, your time, and your interest. Someone who is interested wont make excuses, they wont disappear, and they will come back the next day, and the next.. 

Once you've mastered your reactions to a situation that is no longer in your control. because that is exactly what is. The boy not offering up the power over himself to you, not giving you that control you seek to be laid in your hands.. You will find that true subs will flock to you, because you're expressing your wants and desires and not budging. You're only magnifying your power, Queen, to ignore the game players, and only accept what you deem acceptable as worthy into your Queendom. So find that point where excuses become too much, and put that foot down. There will either be solid ground underneath or  boy to lick and worship, but either way your confidence and dominance doesnt rely on THEM.. but yourself.

Dommes, how do you handle a sub with too many excuses and words, and not enough actions to back them up?

Subs, why make excuses in the first place if youre not interested? If you are interested, why the EXCUSES for why you can not serve?

This blog is meant to help new Dommes trying to find their footing, and also to promote respectful discourse among everyone.