Make them sit up and take notice.

The last few days have been a roller coaster training a group of 30 women who want to explore the BDSM world. Most of these ladies were in their 20s, 30s and 40s. When setting up these groups the mix of ages in important and here is the reason way. First, let's examine what usually happens with each age group.

20s

I try to keep this group small as it also includes the 18-22s. Scientifically speaking the front lube of the brain is still growing and mature until the age of 23 which controls decision making and behavior. Which means I deliberately limit this age group. There is only a small amount of interruptions of “That's totally not true” or the phone ringing constantly. I try to have patience as at least they are here to learn.

The other half of this same group is usually very interested and ask questions that push these studies along to an area I may have not considered and helped me grow as a teacher as well. They are also at times set in their ways and not at all as open as the next age.

30s

These ladies most of the time are married, have a career but may have partners that introduced them to the BDSM world. There usually education on the subject may be a book like Grey that the husband has used to introduce the subject. Fine for the romantic side but NOT good for actual play.

They tend to be blunt with their questions and take notes. Still timid when it comes to actually play. Not because they don't want to, just that they have not found their feet in this world yet. These are also the ladies that push to know more.

40s

These are the ladies that usually have experience. They know what they want but are around to brush up on their knowledge. They are either helpful and want to help me with the new generation or the full opposite and leave the minute my lecture is over instead of staying for the questions.

Now my job when I decided to start these lectures is to deliberately provoke educated debates and curiosity. I am there to moderate. I asked pointed questions.

What do you have to offer to future subs?

What are your strengths and weaknesses?

Do you do anything to improve your weaknesses?

Do you network with other Dominants but male and female?

Why are you here today?

These are a sample of the questionnaire all Dominants must answer before they purchase these training courses. I want to challenge them to a game of improvement. How else are we going to keep this kink and many others safe for all involved if we don't share knowledge and actually help each other?

Which always brings up this Question, Do you accept knowledge from your submissives?

My answer: Damn right I do!

Why: Just because a submissive of any sex is submissive does not mean that are losers or lazy. Oh dear, these are people from all walks of life. Oxford graduates, Business owners, executives of Millionaire companies....Their knowledge can be used to further many different areas of my life including but not limited to my income.

Frankly, you are one of two people if you don't use that knowledge.

1- an arrogant idiot that shouldn't be in this world as you will cause more harm than good.

2- inexperienced and need that knowledge, use it.

It is up to you to use the gift of submissive given to you to better both your life and theirs. In fact, it is your responsibility to take care of your needs as well as the needs of your submissive.

There are three qualities I have that make CEOs sit up and take notice of me.

Confidence – They may be good in their field of work but the moment I realize they are a natural submissive and interested I don't back away.

Compassion – Once I have my submissive they know I will look out for their welfare. They also know that I will push them to improve. I don't accept an excuse so they also know I will call them out on that as well.

Knowledge – This is my most powerful tool because I am always improving. I am not perfect but I strive to be better. THAT is what they want most. Because they NEED someone who will lift them up not tear them down even in their kink.