The Hunt vs The Wait..

This is a struggle I know all too well in the 17 years of dominating. As a dominant, there is a strong need to hunt down what I want like the prey they truly are. The need to stalk my prey, to get to know them from a distance before I pounce and make them mine. This method works in a crowded room. When you lock eyes with the right sub and you watch and their body language locks them in place. The confusion of fight or flight and then the complete surrender. This is the hunt I love the most. 

The wait is what is needed online. This is a lesson so many seem to misstep in so many ways. Look at it from the subs point of view. Said sub may have posting "Looking for the right domme" on Twitter. Within an hour said subs DMs are full of "Then get on your fucking knees for me." Along with countless others. We all know the story and have heard it a million times over. Now, look at this same thing from a Dommes point of view. She may have posted "Seeking intelligent, thoughtful, finsub." I laugh when I post this for one reason. Dommes post on Twitter is drowned by 100s of tweets posted the same way wording and all on Twitter. I call them both the Wait for the fact that you have to create enough content to be noticed without compromising who you are.

The content vs The Time

I spent around 20 hours every week doing research, posting posts like this, posting on twitter or reddit and ever posting on my website. The other 20 hours a week goes into actually spending time with the subs that this content has attracted. Weeding out the ones that are of not interest and getting to know the ones that might be of interest. Then slowly adding tasks and picking through whether or not this person is what I want.

All of this above requires time that is NOT paid. And yes I said it. I work full time to do what I do and most of it is NOT paid. Boom bet that dropped a good 90 % of my fans there.  

I work hard at what I do. Not because I see this as work. I see it as fun. It feeds a need for me. Just as it feeds a need for the subs that are attracted for me.

So when I do have time to rest I expect to be left alone. I expect my needs to be seen and understood. Do I expect all of my subs to know all of this? NOPE. I will teach you. However, understand that I will tolerate nothing less than your best. As I give my best self every time I do something for you.