BDSM Safety Acronyms

One of the biggest reasons this fetish is being dragged through them mud so often is because of basic safety and miss labeling. Basic BDSM safety Acronyms are as follows.

Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC), Risk Aware, Consensual, Kink (RACK) and Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK). I will give you a small explanation here but if you really want something informative you should by Madame Sossette's Greed. I won't regurgitate something that she has so well written. And of course her book isn't expensive.

Safe: Take time to make sure your space is safe even if you are just doing online Skype sessions. Are door locked so people in side your house that maybe underage do not walk in on these. Common sense but usually over looked.

Sane: Are you in the right mind frame? If you are angry at the world and just want to beat a sub because he wants it, is NOT a good mind frame. Is your sub going through a break up and already depressed, again NOT a good mind frame.

Consensual: This is a bit tricky but I will explain. Every new sub that comes to me has to talk to me about what he expects. Give me his budget up front before I even go into session with him. This is so that when he goes into sub zone I won't push over that limit. I had a sub recently come to me with a horror story all his own. He had been with a Domme for 3 months. He trusted her at this point to give her his bank account information to set budgets for him. He set up a desperate account from his family and expenses. Gave her a spread sheet of all of these expenses and then handed her all of his log in information for the new account after depositing 150,000 pounds. They agreed she would get 1000 pounds a month to monitor and invest this account. Within 20 minutes she had cleaned out his account and sent him an email saying that the money was hers. This kind of scamming is what gives Financial Domination as a whole a bad rep. I am left consulting him and trying to get him to go to the police because what she did is illegal.

Risk Aware: There are risks involved with the kinky world whether it be in real life sessions or online. My sub in the above story was prepared to lose 150,000 pounds if it come to that because he separated his bank accounts and made sure that his Domme did not have his family account. These were actions he too to keep himself safe.

Personal Responsibility: This boils down to you. Whether sub or Domme. Take responsible actions in everything you do. Are you taking extra precautions to stay safe? Using a screen name for your brand and keeping your real life separate? These are things you need to think about.

Ask questions, Do research. Google any potential Domme. Ask her where you can find more information about her. If she doesn't have it either she is new (can happen) or she is going to scam you.

I have profiles all over the internet. Sites like fetlife, my own website,Twitter, Iwantclips, and here which took me years to build. I have been age verified and cam verified for a reason! I have blog posts on each site, each with different topics to show the many different layers of who I am. I have erotic stories I have written. This give me credibility, establishes authority, and proves that I know my stuff. If she is not taking the effort to do this it can be one of two things and it is up to you as a finsub to be cautious.