What kind of Domme is right for me?

WHAT DOMME IS RIGHT FOR ME?

ADVICE FOR SUBMISSIVES LOOKING TO SERVE AND FIND FULFILLMENT

Hi there submissives! Looks like you've found your way onto the findoms.com community and now have a LOT of choices for whom to get your domination from. It may seem daunting and overwhelming. There are so many Dommes here with a world of kinky goodness to offer. At first you might feel pent up inside, needing your itch to be scratched. Perhaps you felt let down by your last experience with a Domme. Maybe you just don't want to settle down with one Domme exclusively yet or maybe you are looking for the One who will complete your world.

There's good news. With a little self restraint and introspection you can find that Domme who loves all the same things you do and leaves you feeling happy and fulfilled. First things first you need to ask yourself if you're ready to commit to one Domme or if you want to bounce around a little until you figure yourself out. It is a misconception that all Dommes require exclusivity, especially after only an initial getting to know you conversation. I even recommend that if you're an experienced submissive coming out of a lengthy servitude it might be best to serve the community until your feelings about your last Domme are resolved. If you know you only want to serve one Domme that's also fantastic. 

First I want to address those who want to bounce around and serve the community before choosing one Domme to commit to. I highly recommend to this crowd that you always show respect by paying whatever tribute amount each individual Domme assigns. Don't try and negotiate based on what the last Domme you tributed charged. You choose to bounce and some Dommes demand more than others. Don't start telling Domme B about what Domme A did and why She should do the same. What happens between Domme and sub stays between them. Its rude and insulting to try and do this. Also don't expect that every Domme is the same. If you bounce around, expect variety in the style of domination you receive. We are not made from cookie cutter molds and vary greatly in how we all dominate. Learn from your mistakes and your successes. Bouncing around means you will have a chance to really understand the beauty of FemDom and FinDom and the kinky life.

 If you're an experienced submissive coming out of a lengthy servitude to one Domme, I really recommend you take time to breathe a little and allow yourself to bounce around a little until you feel truly ready to commit to one Domme again. Its ok to need time to recover if you experience heartache or need to get the taste of a bad experience out of your mouth.

If you are just coming to terms with your submissive side and what you're into that's ok. I recommend coming up with a list of 5 things you want to explore. 

Some classic kinks are crossdressing,sissy play/training,humiliation,hypnosis,wearing items like cuffs and collar,being trained in the ways of domestic servitude,worshipping your Domme's body,the always popular foot fetish,and another great one is chastity.

Now that you have picked 5 fetishes to explore you are now going to need to know what kind of domination styles are out there.

Some Dommes are sensual in their conquering of your senses,others are harsh authoritarians who demand utter obedience under penalty of punishment,others may be brats who delight in treating you like a toy they will use and abuse generally with a sense of humor the whole way. Many Dommes incorporate several styles into their domination and allow the sub's fetishes to draw out their different sides. Some Dommes are easy going when you are having normal conversation but turn into cruel sadists as soon the scene starts. This is why its key to talk out your new feelings,fantasies and fetishes with your choosen Domme before starting any kind of scene whether it be through texting or on cam or in person. And if you're on this site always pay whatever initial tribute is demanded before you go into talking out what you're wanting from your session. Don't make a bad first impression so early in your life as a submissive.

I'd like to say at this point to all subs, don't message 10 Dommes at once when you're only looking for one. Its a timewaster for us and it shows you care more about getting your fetish fulfilled than serving a Domme which is the heart of FemDom/FinDom. Do get cash verified and do read profiles and make an educated decision before firing off a private message. If you're calling a Niteflirt line please speak up clearly and know what you want before you call. You save precious time when you are prepared and it goes a long way to making a Domme consider you somebody who is worth their time.