Five Truths of Service

Obviously, I can only speak for Myself - I would never speak for another Domme, that would be presumptuous, at best, and outright offensive, at worst. However, I would like to clarify a few points an s-type ought to know before reaching out to Me:

1. Service is NOT any sort of euphemism for kinky play

Should be self-explanatory, but, sometimes, it needs to be stated explicitly. When I am accepting applications for service, that means I am accepting applications from the submissively-inclined for a Leather Lifestyle Dynamic. I may use play to positively reinforce behavior, but that decision is at My discretion. If I even slightly sense you are trying to use your 'service application' to get sessions for a discounted price because "I own you" (no... that takes years, you presumptuous little shit), you will be dismissed, if not blocked entirely. I can use Growed-Up Terms... "Service" means you do something to make My life better because you like being of use, "Play" means kinky session-type-shit. Any questions?

2. Service is NOT doing whatever you feel like you want to do to "help" Me

If you want to massage My feet as a service and I have not listed 'foot masseuse' as a service I require, then you are NOT offering Me a service, you are, again, trying to get Me to cater to your fantasies under the guise of 'serving Me'. I understand there are some people who consider such things a service - I am not one of them. The way I was trained, service is basically labor slavery. If you're not willing to do the work I want done the way I want it done by the time I want it done, don't bother wasting your or My time.

If you offer to tribute but refuse to send it the way I ask it to be sent because "dealing with customer service is a pain in the ass", hope to the Gods you don't have the word 'slave' anywhere in your moniker - that's an insult to those who are on the slave path and take submission very seriously.

3. Service is NOT a bargaining chip

This was touched on lightly in the first point, but it ought to be stated explicitly - service is NOT a bargaining chip for sessions/ play, pics/ clips, a velcro collar, a personal item from Me for you to sleep next to at night, or anything else I may have missed. Any and all negotiations are going to happen BEFORE you begin serving. I am going to be honest and upfront with you, and I expect the same courtesy. No, unless I decide to re-negotiate some points formally, these expectations I have of your service are not going to change.

If you don't agree to the terms, SAY SOMETHING DURING NEGOTIATIONS! I cannot stress this enough. Yes, you are allowed to have expectations; no, I am not obligated to agree to them, but, if I do, the better for both of us. Yes, I have expectations; no, I will not change them, it's up to you to be honest with both Myself and yourself as to whether or not you can and will meet these desires. If you want to be a houseboy and offer to be of service doing chores, DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT HAVING TO DO CHORES. I was honest with you about what the position entailed, your unwillingness to take Me seriously (*cough*MaleEntitlement*cough*) was your undoing, not My orders.

4. If the Joy of Serving is not what you get out of Service, Do Not Apply

Sometimes, I might be stressed out/ in a rush and unable to provide positive reinforcement/ attention immediately. If you need "a treat" every time you serve, I might not be the right Domme for you. I will always make it a point to show appreciation rather than entitlement, because that is the kind of Domme I want to be - only the entitled pricks see the Entitled Domme, I have a Karma Fetish - but life does get in the way. If you want Me to be understanding to your vanilla life, acknowledge the fact that I am not some Cam Model who spends all day, every day waiting to be at your Fetish Fantasy Beck and Call. Hell, My busy vanilla life is the REASON having subs in-service is appealing to Me, in the first place. I would love to get to the point where you get to be part of My Life, I get to share My day with you, but that should be a perk that you earn, not one you are automatically given.

I remember, one year, My mother applied to the Salvation Army so we could have some toys/ clothes for Christmas. We were 'adopted' by a family whose mother wanted the kids to come watch us open our presents. It was not the policy of the Salvation Army to insist on such things, but the SA Rep contacted My mom to give her the option. Obviously, she said, "No." It was insulting, for a myriad of reasons. First of all, it objectifies/ de-humanizes people who are living in poverty. Secondly, it goes to show these people thought community service should have a reward attached to it. Whenever a sub applies to serve and wants to know the 'perks', I think of this part of My life, how it shaped how I look at those who only offer help with strings attached - it's not submission, at that point, it's topping from the bottom - again, see Point #3.

5. Serving is a Privilege which May Be Revoked at My Discretion

As an s-type, if I invite to into My life to serve Me, that's a gift, just as you are giving Me the gift of your service - it's a two-way street. Self-disclosure is REQUIRED to form long-term bonds with people - that's why I need to know your medical history if you're applying for certain types of service. If I feel you are becoming disillusioned to the point of detriment, if you are resentful towards Me for anything I ask you to do (when that is literally the entire point of service), or you turn down task after task with multiple slave excuses, without offering to make it up in other pre-approved ways, I can and will dismiss you from service. Again, Point #1 - you are here to serve, not fuck up in hopes of getting a punishment. Here's your punishment - missing Me.

If you need to talk, that's one thing - if you're gonna need a day off because you're sick or injured or just need a mental health day, let Me know instead of blowing Me off, that sort of thing - however, no matter how willing you are to serve, if you are unable FOR ANY REASON to consistently do what is asked of you, it is My Right to take the time and attention I would have given to you and use it to find someone who can meet My expectations, just as you have the right to find a Domme who is going to be a match to what you have to give.

I mean, if you can't serve, you can always just get a session, if you HAVE to spend time with Me... just know you're a client and I have no interest in "owning" you, at that point.