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on April 23, 2017
I love reading the latest news about findom on the net. Every now and then a well known Vanilla publication will post a story about the fetish and it interests me to see how Vanilla people react to it.
During my time looking for material, I keep coming across men who are writing in a way that blames the whole community for their own addictions to findom. Indeed, some are even targeting femdom and using that as their excuse for the bad things happening to them.
I understand that addiction is a very serious issue, whether it is findom, porn, alcohol, gambling or drugs. It's a mental health issue that can cause alot of misery in an individuals life. Responsible dom/mes will refuse to deal with subs who are quite clearly suffering from addiction, but that doesn't solve the problem. The addicted person will usually just move on to another dom/me (in the same way an alcoholic might move on to another bar after being refused service) until he finds a dom/me that either doesn't know he's addicted or doesn't care.
How then is it the dom/mes responsibility to curve that subs addiction? Aside from refusing to deal with that sub, offering support and pointing them in the direction of help, there isn't much they can do. That sounds harsh, but it's true.
Unless a person suffering with an addiction WANTS to stop, they won't and there is nothing anyone can do to help them. It is down to that individual to realise they have a problem, want to solve it and seek help themselves. Personal willpower is the only way to beat addiction.
What will not help is blaming an entire fetish community when one falls off the wagon. That's like blaming a bartender because an alcoholic chose to have another drink. The fact is that person made the decision to give in to their cravings. Calling dom/mes scammers who enjoy ruining lives is not helpful, it's blaming everyone and everything else but yourself.
I know what I'm saying may sound harsh, and for anyone suffering with addiction I wish you all the best on your journey to recovery, but I do believe that journey starts with taking responsibility for your own actions and being strong enough to stay away from places (online and offline) that make you feel weak.
During my time looking for material, I keep coming across men who are writing in a way that blames the whole community for their own addictions to findom. Indeed, some are even targeting femdom and using that as their excuse for the bad things happening to them.
I understand that addiction is a very serious issue, whether it is findom, porn, alcohol, gambling or drugs. It's a mental health issue that can cause alot of misery in an individuals life. Responsible dom/mes will refuse to deal with subs who are quite clearly suffering from addiction, but that doesn't solve the problem. The addicted person will usually just move on to another dom/me (in the same way an alcoholic might move on to another bar after being refused service) until he finds a dom/me that either doesn't know he's addicted or doesn't care.
How then is it the dom/mes responsibility to curve that subs addiction? Aside from refusing to deal with that sub, offering support and pointing them in the direction of help, there isn't much they can do. That sounds harsh, but it's true.
Unless a person suffering with an addiction WANTS to stop, they won't and there is nothing anyone can do to help them. It is down to that individual to realise they have a problem, want to solve it and seek help themselves. Personal willpower is the only way to beat addiction.
What will not help is blaming an entire fetish community when one falls off the wagon. That's like blaming a bartender because an alcoholic chose to have another drink. The fact is that person made the decision to give in to their cravings. Calling dom/mes scammers who enjoy ruining lives is not helpful, it's blaming everyone and everything else but yourself.
I know what I'm saying may sound harsh, and for anyone suffering with addiction I wish you all the best on your journey to recovery, but I do believe that journey starts with taking responsibility for your own actions and being strong enough to stay away from places (online and offline) that make you feel weak.
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