MissMorrigan
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Jealousy can be a terrible thing sometimes. It all depends on how you use it that determines how it affects you. Using it to your advantage can be a powerful thing in your personal development. Not letting it get you down, helping push you forward in a positive manner. How do you deal with jealousy when it comes to other subs? A lady may have multiple males serving her but her subjects are expected to be loyal to only her. Ladies, how do you deal with it when you witness it in those that serve you?

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MissMorrigan
#1

dont forget ladies that you can use jealousy to your advantage, sub jealousy.

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MissMorrigan
#2

just remember that as long as my happiness is your motivation, do as ye will.

Lo
#3

i love being emotionally invested in a Domme, while understanding its not reciprocated, and i only get crumbs. it reinforces loyalty while making me treasure what little i get.

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Lo
#4

Jealousy  in judicious amounts can be fun and useful as I alluded to in  my last response. However the flipside of this, is it can be a source of unhappiness or create a bad mental health element. While I enjoy being affirmed daily that I am worthless. It can never hurt a subs self esteem to communicate implicitly or explicitly that the sub is valued. If the sub has no value, then what's the point?

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MissMorrigan
#5

thanks for all the wonderful opinions and thoughts.

#mindbendingmorrigan

knkyng
#6

This has been a great tool for dare I sat two decades now :-) It is especially effective once a sub is on the downward spiral, combine it with dose ignore... and sub will about lose their shit trying to rise up in the hierarchy. Been there done it lol 

johanut
#7

i will ignore you for free if interested. starting..... now!

Go
#8

Access to my time and energy is a privilege not a right. If you don't like that someone else is getting more time and attention than you, then you need to work harder to prove to me that you deserve that place in the spotlight. If someone is getting more engagement from me it's because they've earned it.

MissMorrigan
#9

@johanut lol

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MissMorrigan
#10

do more to achieve more.

PhoenixDelight
#11

As a polyam person I treat jealousy through the lens of that. The book The Ethical Slut has some great chapters on jealousy and compersion which may be useful, even just as more learning :)

Last update on November 13, 3:48 pm by PhoenixDelight.
MissMorrigan
#12

any other pearls of wisdom?

towelboy
#13

How the Domme needs to deal with it will depend on the dynamic. Newer subs will be more prone to jealousy than experienced ones. My first Mistress dealt with my jealousy in a kind but no nonsense manner. I won't say I am completely without ego, but I have accepted and even embraced that Mistress deserves multiple slaves. We all have different talents and strengths to bring to the table (or her feet as the case may be). That is how my first owner got it across to me. My advice if you have a jealous boy is to be generous with praising his strengths while also being clear that you WILL have other subs. He may break or he may bolt but you can't waiver. Even if you only have time for one sub (quality subs take up a lot of time), never let him think he will always be the only boy in the stable.

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