I will not settle under any circumstances

I get a lot of emails daily from potential suitors. I have a very rigorous question and answer email that they must send back to me before I even start to talk them about any type of relationship. If they get through the 20 or so questions that I have sent, they are allowed to ask me anything they want to in one email. Thats it. Once that is over, if we decide that we could potentially be a good match then we talk about our kinks, fetishes, goals, and other chit chat. If we can get through 6 or 7 emails, I tell them about my disability. If they are not turned off by that, and can accept it, then we start to talk in depth about personal stuff.

Recently, I had a very nice potential suitor email me. He had been following me from afar for some time and finally had the guts to email me. He identified as "Primal". Well, in the back of my head I thought, yeah. Hes cocky and is a dominant personality. But I will give him a chance. He got through the initial questions, chat and a few more emails back and forth. Surprisingly, he was quite low key and very smart. We have some very intellectual conversation, talked about our backgrounds and history in the BDSM community. We chatted about my disability and how he could see past that and liked me for who I was. I had sent him a long email about some random stuff and shut down my laptop to run errands.

Backing up a bit. I had been sending out some emails and fried requests for the ClubFem chapter I an affiliated with over the past 3 weeks. So my fetlife feed had been blowing up with people accepting friends requests from me. He had replied to my email about an hour later. I was away from my laptop for the rest of the day and didn't get back until about 11pm that night. When I opened my emails, I had 3 emails from him. His reply to my original email, one asking if I had read it, and one saying I see you online and getting friends requests but you can't reply to me, I guess you aren't going to respond. Three emails in a matter of 6 hours.

I am not one to tolerate topping from the bottom. Or being snotty when I don't reply right away or within a time span that is acceptable to you. So I hesitated as to what I wanted to say back to him. I realized that the cockiness that I originally saw had come out in those emails. So I informed him that I was not at his beck and call and when I was ready to reply to his email I would reply on my own time when I was ready and that I was not home and the replies from friends requests were from requests I had been sending over the 3 weeks to people who were accepting them.

Its been 2 days since I sent that email to him and he has not replied. Maybe he thought it was too harsh, maybe he realized that I was right. Who knows. One thing I do know, is that I will not settle for someone who does not respect me. I am looking for an equal to me. Not someone who is going to control me. I left my ex over 10 years ago for that lol. So I wanted to share this with you all to let you know. Submissive or Dominant, don't settle. Wait til it feels right. You will know it. Your gut will tell you.