Findom Success

Questions questions everywhere. How do I do this? How do I find paypigs? How do I get males to tribute?

I have composed hundreds of blogs so far about findom,the lifestyle,how to serve,how to be served etc... but the questions come in everyday,so here I go again :)

Findom is set apart from lifestyle bdsm,kinda weird I know,but one of the first things you will find out in this fetish is that it is very greatly looked down upon by "ordinary" bdsm members. It really sucks to be so very disdained by people who engage in most of the same activities which FinDommes do as well,with the exception being findom and fucking. Hinky isn't it that Dominas who style themselves as "lifestylers" have no issue with receiving gifts which are used in play such as whips,floggers,strap-ons,stockings,heels,paddles,plugs and on and on,yet they consider FinDommes to be scammers and whores eh?

The only real differences between a lifestyle Domina and a FinDomme is money and sex(not trying to burn buttcheeks,just calling a spade a spade). FinDommes set a value upon their time and energy. They expect,nay, they demand that males drop the entire entitlement agenda,and tribute for the honor of being in the presence of a woman. In essence they force upon males the realization that women owe them nothing,and that if they desire her attention,than they should pay for it. Moving onto the latter mentioned,sex sex sex. FinDommes do not have sex with their servants,why,well cause if there is an exchange of money and sex occurs,that kinda falls into the category of prostitution,which is illegal in many countries still,and no one looks good in those orange jumpsuits. Lifestyle Dominas do engage in sexual acts though(not saying all,so don't twist your panties). Why do you think so many begging for pegging pissants flock to lifestylers huh? The sex baby,oh yeah! Sex itself seems to be a huge part of lifestyle play ie oral worship,rimming,strap-on play(oh just in case you are confused,anytime there is penetration or touching of genitalia,that goes under the umbrella definition of sex)..but this is not something you are going to expect a FinDomme to offer.

Now you might get the impression that I am bagging on lifestylers,but I am not. I respect all women who are just doing their thing. Women should empower each other,not sit in judgement.

Oops I went off on a tangent. Getting back to the topics at hand!

1)How do I do this? BE YOURSELF. Develop your own style. Play around with fetishes to see what you like. Don't put on a mask,and try to fake your way to the top(doesn't work,and if it did,then it would not be real). Keep your private details private to protect yourself(yes online stalkers and haters exist). Don't try to make a name for yourself by putting other females down(classless antic). Don't engage in drama..sheesh online drama is senseless and brings bad PR to all FinDommes. Be mature enough to realize that just like in ordinary life,you are not going to like everyone,nor they you,so rather than sling mud,just block and go baby.

2)How do I find paypigs? Sign up and fill out a detailed profile on fetish sites ie Collarspace,Fetlife,alt,findoms,Elite Financial Domination,seeking arrangements. Get a twitter,tumblr,blogspot,website(it is ok to start out with a free one like wix or weebly,I would go with wix to start with). Post content,share your thoughts allowing prospective males to see what you are really about,take photos(Instagram is a good place to post),and yes even selfies are good so long as the background is not trash littered(try to avoid the bathroom room ones though,unless you are promoting an interest in watersports or scat) Videos even short ones like vine, gain followers and notice. Don't fall for the you have to show your goodies to get notice(you don't) but feel free to do so if that is what YOU want to share with the world at large. Following through with these actions will get you noticed,and no you do not need to chase after males..if you are chasing,than the power balance shifts,plus it is tacky as hell. You build it(an online presence)and they will come,most likely cum too lol.

3)How to be served? Only you know what type of service you seek,and it is up to you to make that known. If you love sph,chastity etc,then make note of it in your profile,so that you will attract that type of male. If you do not want anything long term,or real time,SAY SO. If you just want the money,hey that is ok too,but be honest about it. Most of all,just have fun..do the things that you enjoy,and the rest will take care of itself!

4)How do I get males to tribute? This is definitely the trickiest one. You have to spend some time interacting with a prospective to figure this one out. Males have triggers,and they are they key. Now do not make the mistake of giving up hours of your day with any one male in the hopes of getting a tribute(not likely to happen),and you look foolish for having wasted your own time. I am not advocating that you not take the time to get to know a male,just that you go into it with the realization that the male you are speaking with may never tribute you. He may just be looking to use you for his sexual gratification for free(lots and lots play that game). To protect your interests (your time) it is ok to ask or expect a small tribute upfront before engaging in lengthy discussion,and if the notion is scoffed at,well you might just be better off blocking and going. You cannot make a findom connection with someone that will not honor you with tribute. Okies I know that last statement is gonna crinkle toes,but unless you are here for "friendship" willingness and ability to tribute matters in findom. You cannot disregard the "FIN" in financial domination,cause without it,it no longer is labeled findom,instead it becomes lifestyle play.

I wish all females success in the fetish realm,and hope that they grow in empowered from the experience :)