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MistressX
by on January 22, 2017
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I’ve recently had to dismiss/block and end a sub relationship.
I realised how some subs expect more time of Dommes then they would actually pay for.
It seems some community subs/unowned boys who talk to Me wish to have a harem of ladies who they keep daily contact with but maybe tribute once a month?
Lonely men who want friendship without the payment. Unfortunately contacting a FinDom for this will only ever end in heartache for the sub. They will find their emails ignored, their texts ignored and feel a sense of entitlement as they are not only subs/Domme but they are FRIENDS.

I found I was actually spending more time on an unowned sub then My own owned boys who tribute weekly. I don’t know why I allowed My time to be eaten up by this sub it was My own fault for liking his company and there’s nothing wrong with that. Not until I stepped back and looked at it from Dominant point of view that I realised this sub was using FinDoms as a social network and I don’t see it that way. I don’t use FinDoms like facebook, boys have to earn My attention therefore I had to cut all ties with him. If he didn’t wish to be owned, then that’s fine but he couldn’t expect Me to spend My time on him when he wasn’t tributing.


I guess My conclusion will be to Dommes who talk to community subs/unowned boys is make sure you weigh out the time you spend talking to him/her Vs the time you spend with your owned boys, if this boy is demanding more time get rid of them!
They have their uses for Christmas and Birthdays but any more then that then they want the "friendship" without the ownership. I'm sorry mr submissive but I'm worth more then just your friendship My value is monetary.
Some subs may think I am rude and not willing to give a relationship a chance?
My fetish is money, money turns Me on, if I'm not getting aroused during our conversations what reason do I have to keep them going? As a sub your fetish is FinDom (or at least part of it since this IS a findom site) if you're not getting off on spoiling Me then what do you get out of it that you can't get from talking to someone else?
Last time I checked in a D/s relationship the sub has to make the effort and keep a Domme interested. I have no issues talking to subs in the chat room in fact I spend HOURS in the chat room talking to subs! Its when I leave the chat room and it spread to Skype/Emails my own personal bubble that is when the tributes are expected for responses and to show the sub is interested. My time is valuable and a sub must learn its value.
If I block you and you miss Me and crave My attention you know how to tribute Me and that's the best form of communication to help you remember your place beneath Me.

I'm not your friend I'm not your equal I'm your superior and you need to remember that.

I have owned boys who have tributed weekly for years, we talk about daily events, text and email but as a sub you have to EARN THE RIGHT TO THAT ACCESS. Not demand it!