The importance of doing what you like and, liking what you do

A few years back when I dove head on into online Femdom/Findom I was taken back by how many fetishes were out there. I seriously couldn't wrap my head around it. How could someone so sex positive,kinky and open minded not of heard of 50% of these major kinks? It blew my mind. I spent half of my online time on Google searching, watching and reading my first 6 months. I still learn new stuff all the time and I don't mind saying "Hold on, I need to google that!"

I have no problem with admitting when I have zero experience in a certain fetish or area of kink. No shame in my newbie game when it comes to brand new things. It doesn't mean I'm not interested or can't research and, learn. Honestly most subs who have brought brand new things into my world are okay with that. We are all consistently learning both Tops and bottoms. Anyone who thinks they know it all when it comes to the kink world makes me chuckle.

Here is what I do know,

When I started out I had these set limits. In one hand a defined list of kinks I wouldn't touch and, then placed in my other hand very lovingly things I thought I would find so much pleasure in. Well.....In the beginning I participated in some stuff that I thought I would be okay with and honestly ended up not caring for them at all. I also tried things on my DO NOT TRY list and adored them. Same with boys I've dealt with. Many times boys have tried something brand new and scary with me and have loved it and growth occurred. And isn't that what life is all about? Growth!

In my experience if you're not enjoying the kinks you're dealing with this lifestyle can get rather dark and daunting. It's totally draining and personally I end up shutting down. So I simply wont and have not for a while. If I can't gain pleasure or be satisfied by what my boys are doing then whats the fucking point? Money? At the end of the day mental happiness overrides any financial gain. For me it's knowing when to turn a sub down for long term satisfaction on both ends. Believe me sometimes that has been hard! Especially after months of chatting and incorporated vanilla talk. Or when the other party can't grasp the break.

Do what you like and, like what you do! My mantra :) Because at the end of the day I want to go to sleep with a smile on my face. I want to feel good about my rt and online relationships, dealings and, all the things that occupy my head space. Even if that means saying "Nope! that's not for me." I spend so much time in this world that I have to put enjoying myself first!