A Sub's Consent

Well I've been away from the site for a little bit, but I am finally done with my busy week.
During the last two weeks, however, I have been dealing with a small conflict with one of the subs I have.

The basics of the situation:
I caught the sub in a lie, or at least him not telling me the full truth of a situation.
This sub is one I trust as a submissive, but once we started discussing whether he would eventually become my slave or not, the display of dishonesty (which was not money or tribute related) was disappointing.

All in all, our discussion afterward has lead to whether he remains serving under me or not.

But here is the thing I think needs to be addressed: It is never my decision whether you stay my sub or not.

Subs, you are the ones consenting to my dominance. You are the ones who have control over what you consent to. Now there are certainly dommes out there who would disagree (unfortunately, and dangerously), but not me. I am big on consent. If you are struggling with whether or not you want to stay with me or not, you tell me. If you are struggling with that, absolutely do not ask me to make the decision for you. When I say I am questioning whether you are fit to be my slave, I am telling you that you are not living up to my expectations. I absolutely have the option to rescind my own consent to the relationship as well, but if you have been consistent and loyal, and are in my good graces, then chances are I will leave the decision up to you. Do you want to work harder to be in this relationship, or do you want someone who is going to fall for your bullshit? This isn't a blog for sissification, but woman up and take control of your stupid male emotions. I know men constantly need women to regulate their emotions for them, but do not ever expect that service from me. I am here to BE served.

If you are questioning any part of your D/s relationship (or honestly any relationship) I encourage you boys to talk about it. I know you've been told all your lives to never open up and show your emotions, I know you've been in a society where women are supposed to be the vulnerable ones who take on emotional burdens, but not here. Here, you need to be open and communicative if something is not working out for you. If you want something to change or you're having an internal struggle, tell your domme. Start a conversation. Nothing will get better if you leave it locked up, and eventually, the relationship will fall apart or wane into nonexistence. I know these are things your small male minds struggle to comprehend, but you are allowed to tell your domme these things. What you have to realize is, in a D/s relationship, the ultimate decision on whether to change the situation or not is up to her, you are there to meet her expectations. But if she decides NOT to change to fulfill a crumb YOUR needs, and you have been communicative about that, then you are responsible for consenting or not to the future of the relationship. I am not here to mother you and tell you how to do every little thing. I will absolutely reign over you and tell you the rules, but beyond that, your actions are your own, so take some god damn responsibility. Being responsible for your own actions and emotions means you also are responsible for REGULATING and SAFEGUARDING those emotions. Express your needs and accommodations to be able to do so, and figure out if I am going to be the domme who will fit those particular needs. I am not here to change your needs, I am here to be an outlet, and an authority. Have some self-respect and responsibility or else I absolutely cannot take you seriously enough to be a consenting adult.