Vanilla Life 10 fucking 1

I have been camming and doing Real Time for many many years and have had several memorable moments in all of that time that I'd like to share (most of which Im sure will come out later), but first Id like to touch on the sensitive topic of what it is like to be a Pro Domme while in a serious relationship.
This is not something that is addressed easily while beginning a new relationship. Being into the lifestyle is one thing, but being a Professional at it is entirely another. While most men find it extremely fascinating, intriguing, and a wonderful erotic and dark thing to bring into the bedroom; the entire idea is quick to lose its luster. I can easily compare it to the supermodel they always dreamed of being with and then she ends up just laying there doing nothing......its nothing like it was in your ultimate fantasy.....

In My experience, this is how the whole Domme attempt at a relationship goes down:
You Meet
You chat
You get to know one another a bit
Subject comes up: "What do you do for a living?"
I always tell the truth because Im up front "Well, Im a Professional Dominatrix...."
"OMG, thats AWESOME! Tell me more! Like do you get paid to kick the shit out of people? Tell me the gruesome details!"
I do. I tell them. Because they ARE fun stories and I have NO SHAME.

Then heres what happens.....they love it! They love it so much that they brag to their friends. THEY BRAG! Then the bajillion questions come from the friends......

"Sooooo...you REALLY DO THIS?"
"Yup"
"Welllll...I mean....Whatttt thougghhh"
"What do you mean what? What do you want to know?"
"Well.....I dunno....tell us a story......or.....can you whip someone here....maybe...hehehe...."

Ok, I get your kinky shit 50shades motherfuckin bullshit but goddamit......NO. Im not going to whip your random friend for shits and giggles just bc ur think its "cute". Im not here as a novelty or to impress anyone's friends of friends of friends....unless your paying for a session and are seriously interested....nooooope go away! And also....arent I here with My BOYFRIEND?! Trying to have Some discretion here......


Then here comes the fun part.

Where the boyfriend loses the "novelty" and sees the reality....

Because I make all My money as a Pro Domme either via cam or Real Time, now Im some kind of whore. Even tho I denied his little friends sessions with Me, regardless of what they offered, Im still a terrible and awful whore because I offer sessions online where all I do is laugh at small dicks and force people to do humiliating things like eat their own cum or shove household objects up their asses. All of My cam sessions consist of people doing things to themselves and yet, IM THE WHORE.

Its fucking infuriating to hear that the man you have chosen to be with you talk like this......its no use to talk him down within reason and explain hes jealous of the attention......oh no....it makes it worse.....just makes that inferior man more upset......he knows better and knows that he doesnt deserve you whatsoever and is acting out, out of fear of rejection, that all the others will take over and he wont matter anymore.

But thats the thing....he does matter....they all matter. There is such a thing as carrying on a personal relationship and business relationships too. The diffence in this industry is that your other has to see the difference, and so many cant. Regular porn is different, you shoot a scene and your done. The Professional D/s world is very much a relationship where the s cant have have the normal/vanilla D has. And as a Pro Domme, you have to keep connected with all of your paying subs at all times, or there wont be sessions anymore, therefore, no payments anymore.....try explaining this to a vanilla man who doesnt understand our business practices....Good example here:
"Well why do you have to talk to him?"
"This is a regular long term sub of mine and he is paying for a session"
"But why do you even have to talk to him then...?"
"Because I have the respect to and he's been paying ME for a long time even outside of sessions so he deserves the same respect!"
"I just dont see why if hes into Findom why he would even ask to talk to you at ALL..."

This is another insecurity of men involved in our lifestyle. Not only do they depend on the monetary benefits of it, they are completely insecure and dont want you to leave them at all even with people you trust by yourself.

ALWAYS TRUST YOURSELF AND ONLY YOURSELF. Period.