NLP and Findom/Femdom

I know it has been said time and time again men are preconditioned through society and some look at that as a bad thing although some Dommes love this. I guess you could say I am in the middle of this topic simply because there are pros and cons to all of the pre-conditioning. I may not be an English major or have extensive training in writing, but what I am capable of is writing with emotion and getting a point across about things I find important.

First, to understand is although not every male works a white collar job they all have certain things embedded into them. Often it is easier to demolish walls in those who are not ashamed of knowing they are accepted no matter what or those who just don’t give a fuck what others think.

Society has taught them that they need to be strong, self-reliant, the protector, and I am sure I could ramble on quite a few more traits. Those three are all ample to get My point across in this though so let Me break down My beliefs on how exactly are they preconditioned into men through society.

Strength is not only something that someone can see it is also a mental, physical, and emotional perspective. Various types of men have adopted weight lifting, knowledge expansion, and emotional barriers. These are seen throughout society every day. Which type they choose tells Us only a little bit about that person but naturally being told to suck it up and that pain is gain all their lives. They scrape a knee they are told to shake it off. Just like with the Ivan Pavlov’s classical conditioning it recurred to the point that they just do what has been conditioned as natural to them. So when they are hurt they feel like they need to re-center themselves on their own. That is just a habit and needs to be understood that it is nothing the Domme did wrong, but something that could be addressed from a psychological stance if the male party is open to the idea and bonding experience.

Note: They will not always be willing to consent to this as many do find reconditioning to be rather uncomfortable. It is a huge thing on B/both parts because it is not only communication that is needed but also understanding with firm but gracious guidance. Something like this does take a lot out of a Domme (the submissive too as it is most uncomfortable for them I imagine) but it can benefit B/both in building a solid foundation where the submissive male is no longer concerned about running to lick wounds or hiding failures because of fear of what may happen.

Then there is the fact that men are naturally self-reliant, yes some do crave to be dependent on a high level. Yet, more often than not, I do see that they are living alone, married, have steady professional careers and this does mean that they have grasped the concept that no one is going to hold their hand at all times. Once someone has grown up and started paying all of their bills taking care of others that they are obligated to it is hard to revert back to being placed on a strict budget. Especially for married men, which is why when I budget that is a vital part of the assessment is their vanilla aspects and understanding that although I know I am very important in My boys lives the potential men wishing to serve Me have vanilla obligations. There is no way that they can be 100% dependent on Me, and I do not want that. I definitely will not be there to scrub their asses or tell them they are going to be late for work. So yes this is a must for Me as far as a trait in a submissive. These men have to know that because they are actively self-reliant does mean I do expect active submission from them as well when under My care. No, this does not mean I will not watch their budget allotment like a hawk making sure they are keeping everything up to My standards for those I am able to. Even credit spending and pay-back plans as to not ruin their ability to maintain healthy finances is important to Many I am very sure, especially Myself.

How many men feel like they really are not created to protect those they hold dear? I would sure hope that number would be rather small as I do believe it is! There is a natural urge that is conditioned into humans that they should protect their family, friends, and loved ones within reason. So why would it be any different for their Domme? I do think that many want to walk this road and just do not know how to go about finding the right Domme for them, yet there are millions out there. Do not be discouraged. When that man does find a Woman who has chemistry and gives his life purpose he will do all he can with Her there or not to protect Her name, Her safety, and Her property. That by far is something I would not change at all within the dynamic I choose to use.

Yes, for Me chemistry is important! Sessions are just icing on the cake. Why would I want to recondition and change all someone is if it is not to better Me and them B/both? I simply do not desire to change anyone that does not need to be changed or desires to. I do think that the bonding of reconditioning for NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) can impact and give purpose in a boy’s life just as much as the positive effects it generates into their life.

It is My own opinion that every man, as boy-like as some of the little bitches may be, needs a strong Woman that they can complement as well as grow with. W/we never stop aging; W/we never stop growing; W/we will never stop learning but W/we can find happiness within an F/m or D/s relationship with complete and uncut understanding of O/one another and that is the start to a journey many just may be looking for deep inside.

Careful with whom you allow past your barrier, but do not make it impenetrable for that may keep the One you yearn to serve disinterested. That cash in your pocket may not buy Her interest, but do not lose hope. After all W/we all want to enjoy O/our relationships and I am set on enjoying Mine!