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LadySouthern
by on December 26, 2022
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So I've been holding off on blogs here for a VERY long time, but today I've been striken with personal curiosity and would like to know everyone else's thoughts...

When I first joined this community, I was welcomed by wonderful people (dommes and subs) who seemed more into "genuine connections". Both parties understood a Domme's time as valuable and there was no question in truly submitting/sending when prompted. There was open communication/understanding and a safe space to play.

Over time, I've noticed Dommes using every gimmick possible for quick, easy cash (scams included) and "subs" who are more into the idea of prying for free attention and content WITHOUT any regard for the Dommes' personal time or their worth (Yes, I'm using quotations because they aren't really subs and I obviously fully understand that). Many "subs" have also resorted to scamming to make money for themselves in the form of catfish accounts made with free content. All of this (in my personal opinion) has made it difficult on both sides, as expectations are constantly lowered, scams are rampant, and mutual trust is more difficult to gain/maintain.

My questions for everyone who has been around for a while:

At exactly what point did you notice the "shift" and what do you think could be done (as a whole/on both sides) to possibly better the community? 

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aristocrat
Honestly, it's always existed but tends to come in waves. Unfortunately it also creates simultaneous raising and lowering of standards because people get jaded and guards go up. Nevermind there's also a healthy mix of lifestylers: some have always sought genuine connections, while others much lighte... View more
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Miss_Alley
I would say a shift happened when life became more internet-focused, and then when magazines like Vice started doing articles on findom. TikTok and it's 'easy money' clips hasn't helped either, though that is pretty recent. With as much media coverage findom (or D/s in general) gets these days, I th... View more
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So agree so true
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Miss North
I feel like it comes in waves. I started out 12 years ago, and when I was new everybody was saying then how findom had changed so much already. In the coming years I’d see it change for myself, and it would continue to do so. A TV spot here, an article online there, and an influx of inexperienced gi... View more
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