Sharing a bit of Myself

Ive noticed that over the years I really don't give any insight in who I am as a person unless its with some one serving Me aka My property or randoms who have been playing Me with years.
Im not the easiest person to get to know on a personal level. I keep My personal life private and there is a reason for this, sorry people no dark secret just a very televised death of My oldest daughter in the late 90's.Because of this horrific incident and incorrect story telling by media to drum up drama ( keep in mind I stayed away from reporters I didn't answer questions and this was due to a lawsuit going on behind the scenes that I did win) I kept My identity secret for many a years, I didn't want the sympathy I didn't want the questions, the pain over what happened was still very fresh and I didn't want to keep have to reliving the event more then I already was.
Needless to say when I started dominating online I like many kept My identity hidden and this was just not only for My sake but for that of My youngest daughter Eden.I made a few close friends told them the story , which in a way was My therapy( 2 ladies to be exact within a 4 year time frame) one became a best friend and My daughters godmother thee other was just a really good friend.
Well back then a lot of dommes hung out in yahoo chat rooms, we had moneslavesformistresses and one other room(brain farting on the name lol) any way there was one women in these rooms who well to put it mildly like to dictate to other dommes who they could and could not talk to via submissives and if she was interested in a sub and if she found out you talked to them all hell broke loose.In My case it did, I talked to a sub she was interested in and she had threatened Me in main chat that she would disclose My secret to the room, keep in mind the yahoo chat rooms held 50 people and these rooms were always full, Me being Me I don't like when people tell Me what I can and cant do, considering this boy wasn't owned or UC I didn't feel like I had to comply with her demand, I knew what she was going to disclose I wasn't afraid of what she was going to disclose it just rather made Me sad that she was willing to exploit something painful and tragic to a room full of people and think nothing of it .
Needless to say she openly disclosed the details in the chat room along with online exerts from the trial(if any one doesn't know any trial held can be looked up online and the transcripts can be bought)along with some other painful things that I didn't even know.It of course back fired on her, I held My ground, other dommes were upset over what she had done and disgusted with her actions.I wasn't the first person she had to tried to shame and I wasn't the last but the point is I held My ground,spoke up to her(which may have seen as a mistake to many due to what she did), I don't like bullies and mean people and I held My own with her.
For years I had to deal with her literally stalking Me,she made a website about Me exploiting and slandering Me,My daughter when she got older found the website and she had some choice words with the lady , she went as far as calling My parents, which I found amusing because My father gave her no details of where I was or about Me and threatened to call the police on her as well.
Years later (this started in 2002) as in recently 2014 she found Me again after years of silence (not like Im hard to find on the net as a financial domme lol)and we were talking , she was divulging her life story to Me which to Me was a product of her karma, but I couldn't help but feel a little pity for her and tried to give her some advice concerning her current situation, I know call Me nuts but no matter what the pain she had caused Me I couldn't inflict it back because I'm just not a vindictive person. Towards the end of the conversation two things happened, I had asked her why she did what she did, her reply was because I was friends with some on she didn't like and who had caused her pain, which I had nothing to do with so it was guilty by association syndrome and I got the back lash of the friendship, she then apologized, which is something I thought I would never get, hell had frozen over. Needless to say there had been no contact since then and I get updates from other people she has tried as to where she is in life, and its rather sad.
This is some of the reasons why I say financial domination isn't a competition, because all thee above is what started the down spiral of this person and her hopes to take down other dominate women, I wasn't the first and I wasn't the last I was just one of the few who stood up to her .People do some ugly things, and over the years Ive seen some ladies do some pretty ugly things to other ladies in this fetish.This tends to be disappointing because not only are we all after the same things,we are suppose to support each other as well.
I keep a pretty close knit group of friends, I'm careful of what information I divulge of Myself( hate to bust ya all's bubbles I lead a pretty non exciting life lol)and Keep what information Ladies tell Me of themselves to Myself.We not only have to trust the boys/subgents we play with we have to trust the ladies we find ourselves around daily as well.
You see Me constantly writing about ethics and morals and how they fall into play in bdsm, especially online bdsm and this isn't just in regards to subs but also with the Ladies we interact with, Ive not only experienced the *ugly* that comes in this online world but Ive seen the *ugly* happen to other Ladies as well. It all comes down to how we treat each other, how we speak to each other,respect each other etc.Turning the other cheek to a extent when *ugly* rears its head.Standing firm to ones beliefs but being politically correct when responding to the ugliness such as in killing it with kindness.Dont give them what and to put it bluntly that means not losing your shit with them because you might just find yourself on the same level of ugliness aka internet bullying that they are on and every one sees that and its a reputation killer( you might get some subs afterwards but its always the subs that thrive one ladies fighting).
If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all.....people tend to self destruct on their own.Don't join the bandwagon on bashing's on new or old people, don't be part of the problem be part of the solution, being the bigger person,be the ADULT .Don't fall into being a follower of the problem cliques as I learned in the past you may not be the one being the douchetard to others but it makes you look just as guilty by being friends with them, choose your friends wisely.
I'm respected with in the fetish not only because Im damn good at what I do but its also because In how I treat others dommes and subs alike, I don't do drama I don't involve Myself in the drama and I treat others as I wish to be treated, I don't always like other ladies, I don't always agree with who they are as a person or how they dominate but Id never stoop to the shame game that so many tend to play and that there is another reason why I'm so successful and why I have the same boys and randoms playing with Me for years( I welcome the new ones as well which I get ;)...)
Any who thought Id share that due to seeing some wonky stuff lately (not on here) just on social media with ladies.Oh and sorry for the lengthiness didnt think it would be this long lol My goal is that something positive was learned from this .