I am not a loser

I know for some subs they like to be called names and degraded, being called a loser or a pig makes them turn weak however one mans kink is another mans limit.

I myself am not a big fan of the loser thing, I want someone who works hard and puts in effort and I am not saying that everyone who likes to be called a loser has the attitude of one it is just an opinion/preference .

But the reason I write this blog is as a Domme I have never just assumed that every sub I talk to or interact with wants to be called names, you shouldn't assume all subs are the same, subs have their own minds, turn ons and turn offs.

 I have seen that some subs make it clear in their profiles that name calling is not only a limit for them but a huge turn off, I feel it is important to know these things and subs make it clear in your profile and interactions  if you don't like to be called names and if you do what they are.

As I said above I don't want someone who has a loser attitude and I can't speak for others but from conversations with some subs they have said they don't want to be called a loser because they don't see themselves as one. I have also have subs tell me how they don't like it when they get messages calling them a loser and having demands thrown at them , if you are serving someone and thats part of your relationship and so on then great, but sending copy and paste do this do that loser messages to subs is not what being a Domme is.