getting to know you

this topic was sparked in the chatroom while talking to a sub. i thank this sub for the convo and for me to be able to write about it. it got me thinking....well a sub should have respect as well. talking to them is a way to get to know them obviously but to see if you click with that sub. even if you dont, you learned a few things about who they are as a person. which is important of course. if you dont give them the respect they deserve then you'll never know if they are right for you. they are human as well.

i enjoy talking to subs. i am a talkative person of course. i learn what they do for a job, learn who they are as a person, how they act, etc. plus they get to know me outside of what my profile says. i know there are certain things that subs wont want to talk about and its something you dont want to push about. give them the chance to open up on their own terms. not being forced to. subs are shy little creatures. some are talkative like myself. it depends on whats going on. are they having a good day? are they having a bad day? are they just not wanting to talk? etc.

now as a Domme its a different story. quite a few demands a tribute before talking to them. i feel this shy them away. as i said i enjoy talking to them. Dommes should talk to them. they may feel their time is being wasted without a tribute but there are times when a sub just wants to again get to know you. so dont rush. allow them to decide. they will approach if they want to send something or want you to own/under consideration of them, etc.

so overall, its a good relationship when you talk. clearly making sure there is a spark there. dont rush into things. make sure all of the boxes are checked off, etc. so get to know them :). you never know what will come out of it.