We were all new once...

   Hi new Dommes, I seem to have an influx of messages seeking advice / how I did this or that to get where I am. I’m flattered you see me as successful and inspiration. But I don’t have the time to sit and coach you lovelies, let alone always giving my time for free. My time is money after all!

   Success starts with educating yourself, there’s an arsenal of information here alone for you, and the Internet is full of even more. My best advice is if you read something on Buzzfeed that said this was fast and easy cash, being mean to men for money... start from scratch and erase “fuck you, pay me” from you vocabulary completely. Not every submissive likes to be called loser, not every submissive likes to be degraded and humiliated. Not every submissive is just going to send you money when you demand it. Each submissive is different, I suggest getting to know them - sure you can require a tribute upon being approached to help avoid having your time wasted, but either way... they are humans just like you are and deserve to be treated with respect as such. I didn’t get to making this much by not learning. I have made mistakes and done better the next time. I’ve earned the trust and respect of peers and submissives. That may turn off some, but it’s working very well for me. My success also didn’t come without several amazing women here that guided me in the right direction.

   When I discovered this community specifically in 2016, I was overwhelmed, I sounded needy and desperate. Not only that but totally out of my element and confused. I wasn’t confident in myself and I wasn’t sure of myself. I settled for significantly far less than I should have, and there were times where I contemplated exposing my precious body.Now I know my worth and if someone doesn’t see it - that’s their issue. Not mine. I refuse to take my clothes off and I earn the trust of submissives so they become completely vulnerable to me. I do my best to avoid the drama (this site is the most drama-free out of any I have worked on - no petty jealousy) and I help who I can and mostly just do me.

   I’m here because I want the disposable income not because I need a single dime to get by. If you’re here to pay your bills, there’s no shame in that! I would just make sure you carry yourself that you want this, not that you need this. This isn’t go fund me, this is findom.

   I radiate confidence and a little narcissism because I am confident, far from a narcissist but I am sure of myself. Find your niche, what you’re good at - something you can offer that sets you apart from the ocean of Dommes. Maybe it’s your aesthetic maybe it’s your intellect... either way, be real. Be YOU. A true submissive can spot a fake Insta Donme immediately.

   If you’re a submissive reading this and find yourself questioning why a Domme would ever come to me for advice, why don’t you find out?