R E S P E C T find out what it means to me.

Trust and respect are just as important as consent in a healthy d/s relationship. There are some people out there in our community even - that think that being a submissive means that they will do anything a dominant says. Just because they aren't a real submissive if they don't. But that’s not how a healthy d/s relationship works, it’s a two way connection. 

Submission is not something given lightly. Submission is usually only given to those that are deserving of that level of trust. The key ingredient that makes a submissive willing to give himself completely over to a Domme in ANY capacity...  is trust. Why would we as Dommes hand over any aspect of ourselves if we don’t feel that person has our best interest (or even good interests) in mind? We wouldn’t, in vanilla or kink life. We wouldn’t give ourselves over to anyone unworthy.

You have to give respect to get respect. Our submissive(s) need to know that we will be consistent, healthy and respectful. A sub (finsub or otherwise) should never worry about our decisions or ability to make financial or even basic decisions for them. The point of this kind of dynamic is for both our lives to be enhanced and better - not filled with worry and doubt. Lack of trust and confidence in each other will spread that doubt... and create many problems within your dynamic as d/s. That’s when subs don’t stay, hop from Domme to Domme, or some even become timewasters because they just want the thrill without having to give out any trust.

Trust and respect are mutually exchanged. We trust they will obey, they trust we will demand. We respect they’re submissive. They respect we are dominant. If your submissive trusts you, they feel safe mentally and physically with you. You’re more likely to get what you want, and they will be more likely to give you it with no fuss, like the good little boys they are. 

Yes we are always right, but they need to trust that, or there won’t be any success and both will end up disappointed. You’ll find it much more satisfying when you get that tribute, that gift, that payment, when you don’t have to work so hard for it because they trust you. You say you want it, and they give it to you. There's even times you don't have to say a word. 

We give them them structure and control in return for being served. Sure a submissive should never expect anything from their domme, but you shouldn’t either if you can’t give respect. It becomes even more critical when you get involved in more than the financial domminance to have trust and respect as well. As many of our little boys on here are into much more than watching you take their money.

Enjoy payday everyone!