Tips for subs

Writing a profile:-

Try and include as much as you can,a list of kinks/fetishes you enjoy, limits, what you are truly looking for,maybe include any experience you have. Just be honest and write honestly, don't include things you think someone wants to hear/read. I also find it helpful if a sub has written a full profile because personally any sub that contacts me I will look at their profile,posts and so on to see if we have anything in common and such.

Engage yourself:-

Write posts and blogs, they can be a way to engage yourself and others in the community, I like to read and hear things from the subs perspective. Join in the chat room, come say hello and introduce yourself, I know this can all seem scary sometimes but it is a great way to meet others.

Be honest:-

Be honest with yourself about what you truly enjoy and what you seek, do you want to be owned? Do you just want to pay for sessions? Even if you are unsure about what it is you truly want be honest about that,being honest will is key to finding whatever it is you seek, you can't expect honesty if you are not willing to give it. Be honest about money, don't make promises you can't keep by offering more than you can afford and so on, be honest about what you are bringing to the table,how you can/will serve.

Put effort in:-

Laziness will get you no where, you will not get much attention from a "hi" message,you need to put thought and effort in,make yourself stand out, think what can you say to a Domme that will make her look at your  message twice. Remember you have to prove you are worth a Dommes time, you have to be willing to work hard and do what you say you are going to do, show her you mean it.Be sure to read all profiles and so on.

Have patience:-

A good relationship takes time to build, if you want to find what you are truly looking for you need to apply effort, hard word and patience. Let things happen naturally and allow things to go with the flow.Trust takes time so again you need to apply patience and show you are worth a Dommes time.

Good communication:-

This is a really big and important part of any type of relationship or session, you must communicate with your Domme, if you have an issue or need to take a break you must be honest and tell her, it is not ok to just dissapear without a word. if you want a session you must communicate what it is you want, safe words and such. Part of good communication is honesty, effort and manners.

Remember your manners:-

Remember you are talking to a Domme,address her correctly, Miss,Mistress,Queen or whatever her prefernce is, if you are not sure then ask politely. Say please and thank you. 

Do your research:-

This is so important,read a Dommes profile, any blogs and posts she writes, check out any websites or any other social media she may have,look on her clip store,take the time to find out as much as possible about her before approaching, this way you will know how she wants to be addressed,any information she may want you to include when messaging her, how and where she wants to be approached, her tribute methods and amounts,when and how much you need to tribute, her likes and dislikes, if she offers sessions and so on. This comes as part of pateince and making an effort it also shows you have taken the time to do it all. It should also give you a good indiaction if you are likely to have anything in common, it should also answer some basic questions you may have,so make sure you read carefully to avoid asking basic things/questions  that have already been aswered.

Don't be scared:-

I know it may be easier said than done and you may feel nervous about approaching a Domme and serving her. If this is the case engage yourself slowly into the community and try build up your confidence a little,once you have taken the plunge you will feel so much better.

Have fun and be yourself:-

Let go and embrace your submission, it is not a sign of weakness,if anything it is the opposite,bieng yourself and embracing it takes guts! There will be other subs who understand how you feel as well as Dommes.Enjoy the experinces you will have,dive in and learn, enagage with others,get excited about it all and look forward to being the best sub you can be. Finding that relationship, letting go and being able to express yourself will be a feeling like no other.