Findom IS about money

I want to preface this, by saying that I have wanted to write a blog about this for quite some time, but I'm a little insecure about my English since it isn't my first language. But anyway...

There are a lot of written pieces about experiences in Findom from a sub's perspective, but not as many from the Domme's. At least not about the actual financial “transaction“, as there still seems to be this weird stigma attached to actually enjoy receiving money. Sometimes I get the feeling that you have to have this long list of kinks and fetishes to be taken seriously as a Domme. Otherwise, you're just another Insta who's only in it for the money...
But why is it so difficult for some people to accept, that being on the receiving end of this financial transaction is a legitimate fetish? Not many seem to have trouble accepting Findom from the sub's perspective – they give up control, and put their Domme's needs above their own. Classic D/s relationship stuff. But so is the feeling of having someone do what you tell them, without expecting anything in return.

The first few times I've talked to subs about Findom, I said that I only actually care about the act of submission and that money itself isn't important. I was lying. Now, don't get me wrong, when I receive tributes, I get this amazing lightheadedness, this power rush – even if the tribute is small. But money is still the crucial part. If I meet someone and we're compatible in every other aspect - fetish and vanilla - but that someone isn't prepared to indulge my money fetish, it's not gonna work. Simply because there are men prepared to pay for my time.

And I guess this is the point I'm trying to make – while every sub is different, and every D/s relationship is gonna have a different dynamic, serving me always starts the same: with a payment.