A Tribute A Day Keeps The Timewasters Away?

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A Tribute A Day Keeps The Timewasters Away?

Any Findomme has probably received many DM's from submissives wanting to talk, yet not wanting to tribute first. They might say 'oh I have been scammed before so I just want to chat first.' or they might not say anything at all and they will just keep talking. However, when you see these 'submissives' they almost always expect verification from a Findomme. Most Findommes offer various forms of verification. However, why can these subs get away with not offering verification? Don't they realize that time is money? Let's talk about it.

It's Findom after all..

Ok, so you want a Findomme to verify, which is completely reasonable. Findom is filled with fakes so it makes sense. However, you don't want to tribute a small verification fee just because you have been 'scammed' before or because you don't want to 'waste money?' This fetish is called Financial Domination for a reason. Time is money in Findom. Every minute a Findomme spends on you is very important. Almost every Findomme gets a lot of messages every day from other submissives saying the exact same thing you are saying. If we all talked to every single person just like you then this would be very exhausting and a waste of time. As a finsub you need to be able to verify yourself. There's just too many timewasters. You have the benefit here because a lot of Findommes offer different kinds of verification on their profiles. Submissives do not. A tribute beforehand is the verification. This is not a given for us as a whole lot of 'subs' reaching out are just timewasters and freeloaders. This makes it very hard for any Findomme to weed out the serious ones and so a tribute is expected beforehand. It shows you are serious and you stand out from the rest. This fetish is about finances and the control of finances. If you can't give up a small verification fee beforehand then how can Findomme believe you would be a valuable finsub?

Respect

I believe that this issue has to do with respect and more specifically the lack of respect in Findom. If you are a genuine finsub then you would know that a tribute is a verification. You would understand how valuable a Findomme's time is and that it shouldn't be wasted weeding out the fakes. Perhaps it would even turn you on to send a tribute beforehand and seeing the way things go. If this is not the case then you need to think very well about this. Respect is a huge thing in Findom. If you cannot respect a Findomme enough to not even want to tribute the smallest fee beforehand then what exactly are you trying to achieve? Basically what this behavior shows is that you think this small amount of money is way too valuable for you and in a way you are holding it over a Findomme's head. You want her to talk to you first. Perhaps you want to first have a 'session and then tribute during or beforehand.' This is not Findom, hun. This is just pure timewasting and disrespect.

But what about the scammers?

So you might be worried about the fakers or perhaps you have been scammed before. You might worry that you will pay and she will disappear. Now I am not going to pretend as if this isn't real. This is real. Most people you meet in Findom are fakers. Unfortunately, that is just the way it is. Every single genuine Findomme and finsub have probably been scammed before when they just started. It is sad however, you just need to change your ways. Before even tributing beforehand try to find out more about the Findomme. Watch her verification video on Twitter, read about her Tweets, analyze the kind of things she writes about. A lot of Findommes from Twitter are active on curiouscat.me. Go there and look at the questions and replies. If you're on any other network then read her profile and watch to what kind of comments she responds and how she responds. You can't just tribute to any 'fuck you, pay me' gal. That is just setting up yourself for disaster. Yes, you have gotten scammed and it sucks. However, try to learn from it and know to do your homework on a Findomme beforehand.

It happens to the best of us.

I have gotten scammed too by 'finsubs'. It is my own lack of understanding and ignorance that I fell into that trap. I take responsibility and I learned from it. Almost any person at the beginning of their Findom journey gets scammed or has some kind of bad experience. It's life, hun. You should do your research instead of trying to freeload. In an ironic way, you are basically just attracting what you don't want. No genuine and established Findomme will want to speak to you. It is one of the first things we learn in our Findom journey. Never talk to subs for free and never put yourself in a vulnerable position. This is something a very established Findomme told me when I was just a baby Findomme. If anything you will attract new Findommes that don't know better just like I once didn't know better. This will not be something successful because at the end of the day it will end as any other encounter has ended. You don't want to tribute or aren't satisfied and she realizes that you're just not worth it and you're wasting time. For her, it is a timewasting experience and for you, it is just a disappointment. You might even be outed as a timewaster in the Findom community. Just don't do it. I know you might not be doing it on purpose, but to a lot of people, this is seen as taking advantage. This will just end up in you further disconnecting from any potential good Findomme.

Conclusion

So a tribute a day definitely keeps the timewasters away. Findommes receive just too many messages and so it is important to prioritize. If any Findomme had a normal conversation with any sub that sends a message then not only would it be a waste of time it would also mean losing out on money. The time she just spent talking to many subs for free could have been spent securing that bag. It is just the way it works. Try to understand and try to find ways to get to know a Findomme beforehand. Read her profile, read her Tweets and responses, read her blog, look at her Twitter photos, the way other finsubs or RT subs tweet to her and how she responds to it. Try to analyze if this could be the right Findomme for you. Make sure to check she is ID verified too. This can be on OnlyFans, AVN Stars, IWantClips and pretty much any similar site like that. A verification video is also ideal. Keep the effort alive and be a bit more accommodating to the lovely and beautiful real Findommes out there. Then I bet you'll find your right match soon.

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