Communication...why?

I keep seeing so many dominants hit the scene and the first thing they say is "Tribute before you speak". So sure that will happen for a small amount of time. New submissives will message without doing much research thinking this is the only way to do so. Then sub or Domme screams "Timewaster or fake" because they don't see eye to eye in the first 5 minutes.

We have all seen it. We all know it has happened. It is a clear indicator that things need to change.

For the new Domme reading this: Understand that no one can waste your time if you do not allow them to. This means that if someone messages you with something that is not appropriate IE nude photo or a "Hey baby, what's up." Let them know you are not happy and move on. Time wasn't wasted because it is clear you do not match. 

For the new Sub: Be polite and pay attention to a dominants profile. This is the adult industry so make sure your dominant has a link to some kind of adult store. One that requires an ID to verify. It will keep you from interacting with underage people which is hitting Twitter pretty hard at this moment. If you can't find them easily ask her, walk away if she is not willing to link you.

Now down to the communication. I have an open-door policy which means any sub my approach me for a friendly chat and to see if we connect on a level other than kink. Said sub may also take the time during this to ask me about my kinks and other policies which I may give this person links too read. After a point, I will stop and explain even if I am enjoying the conversation, that they need to figure out if they wish to serve or not. 90% of the time even if they do not wish to serve they will send a small tribute for my time.

Yes, there are submissives who will send silent tributes without communicating in the least. These are very rare. If you want to make this last be willing to put in the work to communicate with people who message you. I didn't say chase them down. Usually, I will thank a sub for viewing my profile. If they reply I will start a conversation. If they do not...I move on.

Remember that a polite please or thank you does not make you weak. It shows respect. It also shows maturity. So if a sub says "It feels weird for you to thank me." then don't overuse it. But explain that you have manners and if he still doesn't like it move on. Dominance has very little to do with being a bitch and is often mislabeled. I am friendly and approachable in everyday life when dominating I expect things done in an orderly fashion and use positive reinforcement.

I am not for everyone. But I am me and pretty good at it.