Be the Right Domme

(Originally posted to FL, thought it might benefit here as well)

This is all about love, don't take it degoritory! 

I've had a few conversations about this recently with other Dommes, I thought it might be worthy of a read for some of you newer Dommes to the scene.

There is an endless river of Dommes seeking Subs, often complaining that they can't find a 'real' Sub or a loyal Sub or any Sub at all for that matter. Let me say this first, I am not trying to tell anyone how to run their life/business/website BUT sometimes you have to stop looking so hard and start putting the focus on yourself. I've seen girls who spend hours posting in every group, on every site, with "Pay me, Look at me" and never actually accomplish anything. The number one reason, that's all they have to offer. Sure, you will get messages from some Subs, but not the kind you want in the long run.

Before you can find the perfect Sub for you, you've got to be the perfect Domme for YOU. Don't cater to the normal stereotype, be yourself. That's the only way you will ever be happy with the Subs you do attract. I want a Sub who is interested in things I am interested in, not just FinDom. Or at the very least, a Sub who understands what I am interested in and is willing to put in the time to learn more about those things. It's no fun at all to figure out a month into an arrangement that it's just not working at all for either of you because you didn't understand what the other person was about in the first place. It helps if you invest some of your "pay me, look at me" time into a quality profile. Once you get it down the first time, you can copy that into other places. I am certainly not claiming to have mastered this myself but it is your first impression, and could be the last if they only see 1000 posts stating the same thing over and over. Also, participate in discussions in a variety of places.

Quality Subs want Quality Dommes. Put yourself in their shoes; would you want to consider a relationship with someone who couldn't put together a fluid description of themselves? Personally, I only want to spend my time with Subs who I enjoy talking to beyond the cash. Loyal subs are out there, they are looking for you, but they will pass you by if you are another one of the 100's with nothing but a Tribute link posted anywhere. Show the boys you know what you're doing, that you are interested in the Fetish not just the transaction.

I have been so Lucky to have the boys in my life that have been there with me through Ups and Downs and everything in between. That real connection is worth the wait for the right Sub!