Why you should approach first.

Warning: This post could come off judgemental but it isn’t supposed to. I want to bring something to your attention and hope you chose to listen.

I posted a poll here not too long ago asking what the preference was about approaching first. I was a bit shocked at how many subs wanted a Domme to approach them first and here is why.

I am a Domme who puts in around 60 hours a week (unpaid most of the time) to create content to attract the right subs. I edit my own content. I pay for photo shoots, make-up, props, food and other expenses including the $200 for lifetime membership here. Granted I have other sources of income than findom. This isn’t as easy as it looks to so many.

However, I still get this “but I want a Domme to approach me” comments. I can’t help it sometimes at being snippy with a reply like this “No, Dear. I put in all this effort to create content, the least you can do is send me a message saying you are interested.”

I rarely approach a sub for two reasons and the first I just explained. The second is because 9 out of 10 messages a sub gets is “Fuck you pig, pay me now.” I don’t have the time to send 100s on random messages to subs in hopes to snag one.

I am too busy:

living my life

working on content

training new subs

traveling the world

having fun will the people who put in the effort.

So please the next time you as a sub see a Domme who has worked so hard and put effort into her content...approach her first. It is the least you can do. If you find her content amazing tribute a small amount as a thanks. It helps use feel appreciated after the long days that some of us put in to create things for you.

Again this isn’t meant to be judgmental. I just want to bring to your attention that not all of us sit on our butt waiting for hand outs. Some, like me, work very hard to create content for you, the least you can do is draw our attention by approaching first or tributing a small amount.

Thank you for reading!