Thoughts of a sub

I just have some random thoughts and observations :)

Humiliation - Findom seem to attract subs strongly into humiliation.  Why is that?  I don’t have the answer.  All I can say is that I am not remotely into being humiliated.  To me, findom is about handing over power to a Goddess in the form of financial tributes and gifts.  I don’t find that at all humiliating.  Pleasing Goddess is all that matters to me, making Her smile and making Her feel happy and powerful.   While I understand many guys like to be called worthless and be shown the middle finger, I don’t at all.  I guess I am in the minority judging by a glance at the findoms.com feed on any given day.  And don’t get me started on the “hotter than your wife” comments some Domme’s make!

Wishlist gifts – I saw a comment about types of gifts to buy from a Goddess wishlist.  I try to mix things up a bit but I gravitate towards those gifts that I know will help Goddess the most.  That’s not usually a sexy piece of lingerie.  For Miss Dakota I know that make up really makes Her happy so that features heavily but not exclusively.  I did get Her a very special gift this week which I very hope She will enjoy using!

Subs without a budget – It’s my opinion and I will say this to any sub that asks me that before plunging into findom they should have a very clear idea of how much they can afford to spend and they should stick to it.  OK, so budgets are not very sexy but is any fetish worth going into debt for?  Well, some debt is ok, as long there is a plan to pay it off.  Again, not sexy.  Sorry about that :)  I also think that in a long term relationship the sub should be very open with their Domme as to their financial situationincluding all debts and savings.  My belief is that it is part of a Domme’s responsibility to ensure the well being of their long term sub including financially (not talking about sessions or irregular relationships).

Thankfulness – Of course, I am particularly thankful this past week.  Today marks 8 weeks Under Consideration with Miss Dakota.  Some might think that 8 weeks is a long time to be Under Consideration but I feel it is allowing us to get to know each other very well and I am of the belief that, should She decide I am worthy of Her, I will be Her for a very long time indeed.I am very thankful for Miss Dakota.  On the day before Thanksgiving I sent Her a list of all the ways I was thankful for Her.  It was a pretty long list!  I’m so grateful for all She does for me.  She is truly a special Goddess and I am humbled by the kind things She says to me, the way She brings me into Her world, and the effort She puts in every day to make me feel important to Her.  Yes, I am one very lucky boy.  Thank You Goddess Dakota.  You truly are a dream come true and You mean the world to me.