Vanilla Ideals vs. Submissive desire

I have become convinced that everyone falls somewhere on what I call a Dominance/submission continuum. Most of society falls close to the middle while those of us in the M/s and D/s communities are outliers falling closer to the Dominance or submissive ends of the spectrum. Despite this reality, our society teaches all of its males that they are "are kings" and need not submit to anyone. This teaching is reinforced by family, schools, churches and other organizations with which we deal with on a regular basis. For those males who fall toward the submissive side of the spectrum of Dominance and submission, this creates a situation where they are forced to suppress their submissive needs and desires. As a result, they are never really happy and have a deep seated feeling that their lives are incomplete.

A few of those males are lucky enough to seek out the cure for their malaise and discover the world of M/s or D/s and while realizing it is what they have been craving, they rush into it without proper research and knowledge. There are many self-professed Masters and Doms who seek out such males, not to foster a close mutually beneficial relationship, but merely for their own gratification.

I have learned that a true M/s or D/s relationship is much more a mental one than it is a physical one although both the mental and physical aspects are important. As a Trainer, I seek to help the new sub/slave understand that jus submissive needs are normal and healthy and that it is perfectly acceptable for him to act on those needs. It is important that he understand this truth or he may suffer feelings of guilt or shame and feel that there is something wrong with him.

A sub/slave is still a person, and although he may voluntarily become the property of their Master/Dom, he has the right to be happy and content in his new role. This is where it becomes important to realize that a true Master/Dom will work hard, not only to control his property, but to keep him safe and see that his submissive needs are met and expanded. However, unless the Master/Dom's position on the Dominance/submission continuum is mirrored by the position of the sub/slave their needs will not be compatible and they will not be truly suited for one another. It is for this reason that it is crucial for both Master/Dom's and sub/slave's to be careful in the selection of their counterpoint partner.

As a Trainer of both subs and slaves, I work hard to get to know them as well, if not better, than they know themselves. It is only with such knowledge that I can start to train their minds to think of themselves as a sub or slave and to accept it to the point where they internalize it and accept it as being who and what they are. True submission cannot be accomplished by the use of force, but instead must stem from the mind and heart of the sub/slave. Therefore it is my goal to train a new sub/slave to understand, accept and believe that he is truly the property of their Master/Dom and without me, he is both incomplete and unhappy. Keep in mind that a happy and contented sub/slave is much better than one who obeys out of fear or force as his desire to serve stems from within, and is not imposed on him from the outside.

If you have a need to be trained and are seeking an experienced, competent, caring but firm Master/Domme or if you have a sub/slave that you want trained, please feel free to contact me